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You should try something like: "You're FIRED!!" I bet you'll get his attention real quick then. He'll be so afraid of a bad recommendation, he'll change his tune real quick. No sense taking boxing lessons for a month just for this lame. But if you're interested in self-defense but you're not a confrontational type of guy, defensive styles like aikido, judo or wing chun may be up you're ally. Also a korean style called kook sul won is very effective.
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I'm sorry but I have to ask it, did you do anything at all to get this person all fired up in the first place? I've known many a manager/superviser in my time who just couldn't give a damn and witnessed so many managers pushing employee's beyond what's reasonable within a job for the sake of hitting monthly "targets". You haven't really provided a full picture of what occurred, I'm not saying you should either, but there's always two sides to every story.
However, if this person did indeed threaten you physically and not just become verbally disagreeable (regardless of something you may've said or done to prompt his response), he's crossed the line legally and you should have followed procedure and if the situation required it, fire the individual involved immediately. No martial arts are needed when you apply the law! I recommend you seek advice along a more legal line (internal and external to your job) as to what your stand point is in regard to firing this person outright or at least, put on some sort of company report (with a view to an eventual firing). If you want a more defensive martial art, you should find a Jui Jitsu class. It's not as popular as karate etc but is a very defensive disipline involving how to "disable" your opponent and nullify their attacks by way of grapples, locks, holds and take-downs, it's all about immoblising the attack. No punching or kicking really involved here and can be applied by anyone of any size and it's an art that works in the real world and you don't need a Bruce Lee physique! So even if you're only a 5 foot tall avergae guy, you can eventually learn how to take down a 6' 6" thug! I've seen it many a time. Like Judo but with less "wrestling". Goodluck with what you do, but really, you should have this guy fired and save yourself the class fee's to a martial arts class then treat yourself with that money!
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Truthfuly, jewelman, I think you just need to get really pissed off. It don't sound like you've got time to learn how to be Chuck Norris for this guy. I mean, it ain't a gunfight..it's just a fight. You don't have to instigate anything, but if he starts some shit with you...go apeshit on him. Get up in that ass, you know? The worst that could happen is he might slap you around a little, but at least you'll know you didn't punk out and showed some balls and you'll have your self respect. And his, too, believe me. Don't worry about it, just jump in there and kick some ass.
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Keep a diary of every incident. You might be able to take legal action.
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Your boss is at fault here. He should have fired him for his outbursts, using the legal procedure.
If he throws a chair again tell him you are going to report him to your boss and if needed call the police. He is just a coward. You have a right as a person to work without harassment. I can't teach you how to box online, but you can do it somewhere near you mate. BB
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Well, thanks for the update, but I don't think you need martial art skills at all here, I honestly think you need a course or two yourself. Please try not to take this the wrong way, I'm not meaning to sound unsupportive and bring you down further, you're obviously a nice easy going person, but from what you've just explained there, it kinda shows you're not always confident in people managment, even though you're very knowledgable within your job, it's assertive people skills you need to improve upon, not self defence skills! Your boss may be right from a certain point of view and having to talk to that individual who became agressive as many times as you did, would've looked as though you were singling him out if you'd had a word as often as you've said, I've known nutters to feel agressive like this myself. In hind sight, you should've been more direct, assertive and clear about what he's there to do and his duties and the concequences of not performing within the remit of his contract, and mean it. You should never have got to the point of saying 3 and 4 times to him to pull his weight, you should've made it clear in step 1, especially if he was only on a temporary contract and a part time type grunt.
If you're in a supervisery/managerial role, you're not out to be anyone's "friend" all the time, this can be a big mistake. Sure, you're not out to get on anyones bad side either, but you must assert your authority within the role and not be so concerned with how you're coming across and taking the easy going chummy approach to avoid confrontation, people under you won't respect you for this and you won't improve your own confidence! Honestly, ask your employers to fund you a course if possible. It's this area you're unconfident in. Fix that and you'll find there's no need to be insecure and think in terms of martial arts! Next time you get a tricky one to deal with, have 2 or 3 other people in the room as support and witnesses to what goes on. You really shouldn't be thinking in terms of - if I can punch them in the face better then I'll feel more confident. I hope you sort it out, one way or the other!
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