How to have confidence around women

[savage560]

Dress the part of a "player". You know , stuff that makes a man look good. Pump up a little & if you're flabby, try to tone up & trim down.Look your absolute best, accentuate the positive , physically in every way.It helps, women are pretty visually minded too, in selecting an encounter, or a LTR.

Remember, if you can't dazzle them with your eloquence & brilliance , baffle them with your humor & bullshit!Make them laugh, not at you but life in general, or at the other clowns around. Successful conversation , get them to "open up".Let them do some talking too, very important.

There is 2 ways to approach this dilemma , be a quantity man & go for lots of them, the law of averages will get you places sooner or latter.Or you could, be a very selective "hunter" & size her up, just like a boxer in the ring looks at opponents, to pick your spots of ones that you can score the KO on.Remember though , if too many women see you in one place striking out a lot, they can put that "L" stigma on you, so if you try for quantity , mix up the places you go to, or be discrete as possible. For the dudes I hung with & from personal experience, both methods can work.

Women love complements, & don't like a cheep skates, with money or with praise.
Don't let a few rejections get your down, I've seen that happen to the ultimate of players.They just say , "NEXT"!

[banquomerc]

only one way, have confidence in yourself-like who you are and a woman will sense that especially a real woman.

[mclovin]

I had to drive around a new car a few weeks ago (while my crappy car was being serviced) and I had four interactions with women in a single afternoon. One was this hot black girl who flirted with me, another mixed race girl asked me for the time even though she had a working iPhone in her hand. Usually women don't even bother with me lol. Completely irrelevant to this thread lol.

[Sharkhunter]

Not trying too hard and being yourself definitely helps. Women can smell a desperate man, and can easily identify one who is trying too hard to please. Some men may manage to put on a mask and achieve initial success, but when the mask inevitably falls it will all end pretty quickly.

Interestingly, the more attractive a woman is - generally speaking, the more doubts they will have about themselves. This, in the main, would be created by their being pursued by arseholes putting on masks and their having a succession of short and failed relationships. Those of us who have more realistic expectations, meanwhile, will always look at the beautiful woman and conclude that she is out of our league.

My tip is easy. Be yourself, don't be overawed, and speak to the most gorgeous woman in the room like she is a human being. No made up stories, no bullshit, no fawning. Before long, she will be interested as you are not following the pattern.

I had a "what could have been" situation when I was naive and in my late teens, when a stunning girl in my class always sat next to me. We found the same things interesting, talked a lot, but I failed to see the signs. Or rather, the "what are you thinking, she's clearly out of your league" thing cropped up like a massive wall in front of me.

Years later and far more mature, I was able to think back and recognise the signs. There were at least a dozen opportunities I had to ask her out. After that, I decided that I'd just be my usual self around women. Et voila!

OK, one of my exes was a psychopathic nymphomaniac and another was incredibly hard to get along with for long periods (she was just too much like me), but I did manage to hit the jackpot soon after that. Part of me still cannot understand how I am still with her after more than sixteen years, especially when we wake up together and see her pretty face and gorgeous blue eyes looking at me in the same way as the day we met.

I once asked her what she saw in me, and high on the list were my authoritative voice (firm but not loud, polite but "not giving a shit") and my willingness to question everything. She also described me as "kind" rather than "nice", which was rather telling. To her, a guy who calls himself "nice" is always fake - yes, one of those who dons the mask. A kind guy is always kind, but never tries to be "nice".

[MaxJoker]

Originally Posted by Sharkhunter

Not trying too hard and being yourself definitely helps.

Drastically cut back your quote although that`s no reflection of how bang on you were Shark .


I always interact with females only as me. Because for a start I've no clue how to fake a smartly cool suave persona and can only be my typically bloody daffy self
That said every woman I've ever known has pretty much been spookily similar. With more personal demons than Satan herself
Plus hangups about everything possible , real or imagined
So I then tend to become their quasi therapist also.
Albeit one who has zero expectations of getting his leg over.
Which is just as well actually since it helps avoid disappointment

[TheSharpEye]

Everything explained:

Hot Crazy Matrix - A Man's Guide to Women

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=incSwssUyp4

[otokonomidori]

Originally Posted by otokonomidori

I've found money and good looks to be a great help

I forgot to mention drugs.

[snowy25]

In life I tend to do the least amount I can do to get the results I want. I don't mean in a lazy way as such but in a way where there is no wasted energy. When meeting women I take the same approach. I don't bullshit them or try to be something or someone I am not. To do so requires more energy and requires more hard work than being yourself. For example if you start to lie about things you have to remember the lies you have told which can be hard after a few drinks. If you are giving it the big I am and bigging yourself up you have to be "on" all night or you will look like a complete dick. Its far easier to be yourself as its far less work and less stressful.

Of course you can do what my friend did and I am sure a lot of others friends have done in the past. That is just to go around every girl and ask if they want sex. 90% or so may turn you down but more often than not someone will say yes. It basically all comes down to how desperate you are for sex and what you are actually looking for.

[Sharkhunter]

Originally Posted by MaxJoker

Drastically cut back your quote although that`s no reflection of how bang on you were Shark .

Ha. Cheers mate.

I always interact with females only as me. Because for a start I've no clue how to fake a smartly cool suave persona and can only be my typically bloody daffy self

Completely agreed. Cool, sauve? Uh, not me. I can pull off a decent look in a dinner suit, but it is not long until I am loosening the bow tie. 007 I am most definitely not - but then the sort of woman that 007 tends to attract is not my type, either.

Basically, I managed to find a woman who likes a guy who wears cord trousers and a pair of loafers. A woman who likes engaging in intelligent conversation. We were just drawn to each other above the hubbub and small talk, I guess.

That said every woman I've ever known has pretty much been spookily similar. With more personal demons than Satan herself
Plus hangups about everything possible , real or imagined
So I then tend to become their quasi therapist also.

Oh, I have had a fair few of those. Oh yes.

[Sharkhunter]

Originally Posted by snowy25

In life I tend to do the least amount I can do to get the results I want. I don't mean in a lazy way as such but in a way where there is no wasted energy. When meeting women I take the same approach. I don't bullshit them or try to be something or someone I am not. To do so requires more energy and requires more hard work than being yourself. For example if you start to lie about things you have to remember the lies you have told which can be hard after a few drinks. If you are giving it the big I am and bigging yourself up you have to be "on" all night or you will look like a complete dick. Its far easier to be yourself as its far less work and less stressful.

Spot on. I have never really bullshitted with a woman, as this results in overthinking the entire situation. If she's not interested, no loss. Nothing would have come of it anyway. If she is, win/win.

Love the avatar by the way. My favourite restaurant in Prague, now sadly closed down, was in the same district.