Does spanking etc. turn you on?

[Alvin Lucifer]

Nothing against it. But in porn, as in life, I find it silly.

[Pinkpapercut]

I've liked spanking women as long as I've desired women, collected spanking mags and videos like Janus for many years and practiced it with girlfriends who would let me but never thought I would enjoy being spanked myself until I met my most recent girlfriend who is not just an enthusiastic spankee but an enthusiastic spanker too.

[Schwenck]

I like spanking.
I like spanking ladies and like Pinkpapercut above, found that I also like being spanked as well.
As neither spanking or being spanked does not happen often, I also self spank, which like masturbation is very nice, but not quite the real thing.

My wife, when we first met, did agree to try me spanking her, but eventually decided it wasn't for her. She was more appalled at a request to spank me, which she did once, but never again.

My interest is in spanking in an erotic situation. I am less interested in those mags who look at is a punishment, I don't like over harsh beatings and I don't like nearly all BDSM. I rather object to spanking being a part of the BDSM family.

While I have a fair number of spanking mags, my frustration with them is the exclusion of any sexual context. The exception was Swish, but it was very limited as to what it could show. Eric Wilkin's book Spank! showed that the sessions were often very sexual indeed.

Nonetheless, it is disappointing that very little spanking activity ends up in a good screw, as I think it should. It seems that the new regulations on porn enforce this even more.

If you haven't tried spanking, give it a go. Obviously, it's not for everyone, but you may be surprised.

[seivad]

One missing category, which is where I belong.

'I enjoy spanking along with many other erotic genres'

Simply, I can't say I prefer spanking over bukakke or bondage or frilly knickers or what ever, I enjoy them all as the mood takes me.

But as in all life, in moderation. A little bit of what you fancy, not excess all areas.

[Schwenck]

Originally Posted by Schwenck

I like spanking.
I like spanking ladies and like Pinkpapercut above, found that I also like being spanked as well.
As neither spanking or being spanked does not happen often, I also self spank, which like masturbation is very nice, but not quite the real thing.

My wife, when we first met, did agree to try me spanking her, but eventually decided it wasn't for her. She was more appalled at a request to spank me, which she did once, but never again.

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My wife, after an earnest plea, did agree to spank me across her lap, while wearing a very sexy pale pink satin wrap and some sexy undies. I wore a pair of tight fitting red satin panties. I was so excited that I had an enormous bulge in them! She sat on the end of the bed, I went across her lap and she spanked me quite hard on my satin bum. Then my panties were removed, and she alternated between giving me hard smacks on my now bare bum, and teasing it with the satin panties. She did the whole thing really well, and was surprised how red she had managed to get my bum with her hand. After that, we had a fantastic fuck, we both came very strongly. Afterwards, she said that it hadn't been as bad as she thought, apart from her hand getting sore. Which means that I am hopeful of another session (but not too soon, don't want to overdo it), where I can provide some alternatives to her hand.

I have also been allowed a very, very light spank of her once :-)

Cunning plan for the future is to get her to spank me wearing sexy undies and stockings - she is a bit reluctant to wear them, as generally she is not keen on dressing up for sex, so the spanking session was a break through on two fronts.

[sledge]

Spanking with bare hands (palms) can be stimulating to me - for example, i do l.o.v.e. the spankings, Nina Hartley gives her female friends in their sessions

On the other hand - no pun intended - other forms of spanking (caning, wipping, ...) doesn't give me much...

[Schwenck]

Originally Posted by Don Kinslow

Spanking a wife can really turn her on. This is not giving her pain, but a smart sting enough to make her squeal. My experience goes back to the Swinging Sixties when a rather sophisticated women's magazine ran an article on Recreational Marital Spanking, which began a spanking craze among some young married couples including my lovely and now long-ago-ex wife and I. The article had fascinated her and soon, after a hesitant start, I was regularly spanking her. She told me that after the initial stings from the first few smart smacks her bottom took on a lovely warm glow, which delighted her. She preferred to get undressed and go over my knee bare for her punishment. This really turned us both on. Another turn on for her was that I would tell her to do something, she would refuse to do it, and so on these occasions I would put her over my knee. pull her panties down and chastise her. She loved this. I found that spanking added a thrilling dimension to our relationship.

When I got my first Penthouse mag in the 60s, (pinched from my older cousin, this was Volume 1, No 9, 1965 or 66 when I must have been 11 or 12) the correspondence pages had a huge number of letters about spanking, which I found fascinating. Many years later, via Ebay, I bought the whole set of Volume 1 and found that spanking was a common topic in the letters throughout. It disappeared as a topic during Volume 2. The letters included those on both erotic (as per the quote above) and punishment spanking.

These letters probably started an interest in spanking, but I wasn't really into it until I saw my first spanking magazine (Swish!) much later. That was a huge turn on.

[sto]

Never been into spanking, but I find bondage very much turn-on.

[philby14]

I think my attraction to porn has always been based around the women having the power - at least in theory.

So I don't have any interest in spanking a woman. I might be more excited if a a sexy woman was to spank me, telling me that I had been a very naughty boy to read porn magazines, view sex films, or watch strippers.

[imp44791]

The problem I have with spanking videos (and I mean those where the woman is receiving, I have never had interest in the other way round) is that they're just and only that: spanking videos. I want to watch sex with some spanking thrown in.

It's the usual problem I have with the B&D genre in general. Too much fetish, not enough sex. Too much emphasis for my liking is put on what I call "the protocol", how she's tied, where she's tied, the standard "script" that is spoken ("yes - yes what? - yes master"). And the less said about the dark and dirty looking dungeons, the better. In spanking videos there is so much emphasis on the equipment (I prefer the hand anyway, everything else looks way too impersonal, not to say dangerous), the countback by the spanked woman, the endless "master" talk...

I get it that there is a large number of people who approach this as a fetish, and when something is a fetish the trappings of how it's presented are an integral part of the fun. But people like me, who see acts like bondage, spanking etc as a bit of seasoning on the main course that is sex, well, we're not being catered for most of the time. Hell, most spanking videos I've seen don't have ANY sex in them. This can be very frustrating. A good example is a series I downloaded once called British Boarding School or something to that effect, and some of the girls there (especially a blonde named Linda) were really fine looking. I'd love it if they were shown having sex after or (preferably) during the spanking segment. But no: all you had was a man in a silly schoolmaster get up hitting an extremely good looking woman's buttocks and that's all he did.

There are some videos that are a bit more sexual but you have to work round the edges of the genre to find some material of this sort, and even then you're probably better served by a conventional porn scene where the man slaps the buttocks of the woman while they're fucking doggystyle (probably the "spanking" that 90% of people actually do, if they do it at all), or Belladonna finding her limit with an inflatable buttpiug (ok, not spanking as such, but in the neighbourhood).