Is there any sex you WON'T perform?

[J J]

An interesting question and one with an answer that will differ with every reply!

So, in my experience, scat is out as is Children, underage, incest, beastiality and necrophilia!

With the right partner, oral (giving and receiving) anal, bondage, light slapping, choking, exhibitionism and voyeurism are all great things to experience!

I've made love to my wife when she was pregnant but didn't really enjoy it as I was frightened of hurting her but had no difficulty with "period sex"!

I've had a friend ask to use her for a nude photo shoot and she agreed.......I've even watched her get stripped and fucked by my best pal when we were teens and loved it all!

In my mind, sex is a two way street. It's not just about what I want but, just as importantly, what she wants!

Things I haven't done but would consider if opportunity arose and I was a tad younger would include MMF, being surprised by a ladyboy and even...... Well..... I don't know.... It would have depended on what was on offer!

You only live once and as said earlier, if you don't like it, don't do it again!

[KingKeigh]

-Nothing goes up my butt EVER!!!!!!

-I don't do titty fucks. Seems like a waste of time to me.

-No S&M B&D. I don't find it erotic. Not even the apparel ensembles. That's just more clothing I have to take off. I like naked sex.

- No handcuffs or getting tied down.

In short, I guess I'm kind of a boring fuck. I just prefer straight sexual intercourse, missionary, cowgirl, rev cowgirl, doggie, spoon bang. Oral. Preferably in a bed but couch or floor works too. I used to do costume sex with a girl back in the day. She had this cheerleader outfit that used to drive me crazy. She bought me a gladiator costume that used to itch the shit out of me. I was glad when I got to take it off. It was fun but seemed like too much work when you're really horny. Actually I don't mind if she dresses up.

[want2cmyone]

Hmmmmmm quite a few areas I won't touch (and some of which are just plain wrong)....

Anything to do with piss/crap
Necrophilia
Beastiealiity
Under-ager's & young children (unless your name is Jared Fogle, I guess)
Incest
Bondage/S&M/Pain/Torture Porn
Rape roleplay/scenario's

Makes me kinda glad I only have my feet and shoe fetish

[a435843]

With the mysterious popularity of "50 Shades of Grey", where women were actually busier fantasizing about being with a billionaire, rather than just an S&M top, Sadomasochism and related fetishes seem to have gained a bit of recent respectability. While, as others on the thread have done, I could merely list a bunch of horrible acts, S&M is the one thing that drives me up the wall, because it seems to have come into vogue.

Of course, it's all crap. It's violence, psychological as well as physical, that takes a toll on the minds of both dominant and submissive. Ultimately, it's for bored people who are emotionally dead inside and literally have to beat, or be beaten, to feel anything. So I pity them, and it deserves a special brand of hatred on this list.

[9876543210]

a435843,

Originally Posted by a435843

With the mysterious popularity of "50 Shades of Grey", where women were actually busier fantasizing about being with a billionaire, rather than just an S&M top, Sadomasochism and related fetishes seem to have gained a bit of recent respectability. While, as others on the thread have done, I could merely list a bunch of horrible acts, S&M is the one thing that drives me up the wall, because it seems to have come into vogue.

Of course, it's all crap. It's violence, psychological as well as physical, that takes a toll on the minds of both dominant and submissive. Ultimately, it's for bored people who are emotionally dead inside and literally have to beat, or be beaten, to feel anything. So I pity them, and it deserves a special brand of hatred on this list.

Have to disagree. I've been a dom in relationships for the last 25 to 30 years and have learned to like it but, for the most part, its not really my personality. I'm really more of a "let live" type of guy. But it was a girlfriend long ago that just loved to be tied up and spanked. She had much, much stronger orgasms when restrained. And researchers have now pretty well established the strong relationship between pleasure and pain.

And real BDSM play is not violent. It is play between two consenting adults. Two adults that agree sex can be much more than just plain "vanilla sex". Not saying there is anything wrong with vanilla sex. There isn't. If thats what someone is into then please, have as much of it as you like. But some of us like something a little different. Something a bit spicier, racier and more dangerous. Something that gets our motors racing much more than "vanilla".

So I think you really need to investigate the lifestyle a bit more. It isn't about violence at all. Its more about playing a role. Exploring fantasies and actually going where many people will not.

I know a lot of people in the lifestyle and every last one of them would refute your assertions. People believe what they see in the movies or TV which is really sensationalism and very far from the truth. And, btw, I haven't seen the movie you mentioned as I'm sure its primarily propaganda. The dominant society really doesn't want want people exploring outside of the "norm".

[a435843]

Originally Posted by 9876543210

Have to disagree. I've been a dom in relationships for the last 25 to 30 years and have learned to like it but, for the most part, its not really my personality. I'm really more of a "let live" type of guy. But it was a girlfriend long ago that just loved to be tied up and spanked. She had much, much stronger orgasms when restrained. And researchers have now pretty well established the strong relationship between pleasure and pain.

And real BDSM play is not violent. It is play between two consenting adults. Two adults that agree sex can be much more than just plain "vanilla sex". Not saying there is anything wrong with vanilla sex. There isn't. If thats what someone is into then please, have as much of it as you like. But some of us like something a little different. Something a bit spicier, racier and more dangerous. Something that gets our motors racing much more than "vanilla".

So I think you really need to investigate the lifestyle a bit more. It isn't about violence at all. Its more about playing a role. Exploring fantasies and actually going where many people will not.

I know a lot of people in the lifestyle and every last one of them would refute your assertions. People believe what they see in the movies or TV which is really sensationalism and very far from the truth. And, btw, I haven't seen the movie you mentioned as I'm sure its primarily propaganda. The dominant society really doesn't want want people exploring outside of the "norm".

Well, I will stipulate that there's probably a significant difference between vanilla and what gets pushed in the media as S&M. I guess my question would be, would you and most of your acquaintances who participate in this refute the impression of S&M that the media generates via its reporting on things like 50 Shades, kink.com and other S&M porn, and so forth? Also, would you say that vanilla sex doesn't really "do it" for you anymore? May I also presume what you would find on S&M porn sites significantly differ from what practices you engage in? It sounds to me, from most of your post, that you're implying that there is a "lighter" side to S&M, such as spanking, role play, dress up, etc., that just doesn't give the media the sensationalism that they're looking for.

Although I must admit, your use of the word "dangerous" does get at my point, and that is that vanilla sex, which assuming a "yes" to question 2 above, isn't enough. So, to get the psychological satisfaction you want out of sex, you find it useful to engage in S&M. My point is that vanilla sex provides many, if not most, people, if given the opportunity to engage in it, the psychological satisfaction they're looking for.

The other point I wanted to get at was the inanity of female fantasies about 50 Shades, which is more about being with a rich guy than being some bizarre sexual contractor. I also think that, to most women and/or potential subs (I'm more educated than you might think), S&M sounds way better than it actually is. It reminds me of a Nina Hartley quote about job opportunities at kink.com from an episode about S&M from Ginger Lynn's old podcast, "They're pretty full up on doms up there." No doubt, Nina, no doubt.

[9876543210]

a435843,

Having some problems with my new Win 7 install so I'll get what I can.

Originally Posted by a435843

Well, I will stipulate that there's probably a significant difference between vanilla and what gets pushed in the media as S&M. I guess my question would be, would you and most of your acquaintances who participate in this refute the impression of S&M that the media generates via its reporting on things like 50 Shades, kink.com and other S&M porn, and so forth?

The general media? Absolutely. They're only understanding of BDSM is titillation and anything they can do to portray people in the lifestyle as aberrant. When, in reality, people involved are just normal people with interests a bit different than the mainstream.

50 Shades? Can't really comment as I haven't seen the movie or read the book. If I ever do I'll let you know.

Kink.com? Well, thats a bit harder to explain. For the most part, in my observation, Kink is probably not for the average beginner. Personally, I like some of their sites (The Upper Floor, Public Disgrace and Sex and Submission but some is even over the top for me; Bound Gangbangs and Hardcore Gangbangs). But if you've watched they're videos you know they interview every model before and after each scene. So if the models are into the scene (and I believe Kink isn't into taking any model past what they're comfortable with) then I'm OK with it (although I may not watch it).

Of course there are other places (probably illegal) which cater to things which are not appropriate. In the lifestyle we have a saying, as long as everything is "safe, sane and consensual" then its really nobody's business what two or more people do in private. Anything beyond that is inappropriate and needs to be prosecuted. I think we all agree on that.

Also, would you say that vanilla sex doesn't really "do it" for you anymore?

For the most part, yes. My current girlfriend and I still go vanilla once in a while but not often. She, especially, has found that her orgasms aren't as powerful during vanilla sex. They're still good. Just not as good as they could be.

May I also presume what you would find on S&M porn sites significantly differ from what practices you engage in?

If I understand your question correctly, no. Personally, I've been in the lifestyle for quite a while so, I guess, I'm somewhat accomplished with it. So some of the things you would see at some sites I'm able to do. Shibari rope bondage being one of my favorites.

It sounds to me, from most of your post, that you're implying that there is a "lighter" side to S&M, such as spanking, role play, dress up, etc., that just doesn't give the media the sensationalism that they're looking for.

Correct. Each individual should only go as far as they are comfortable with. Most people (even in the vanilla community) are good with role play and dress up. Spanking is slightly more advanced but most people have slapped their partners ass at one time or another (if you haven't tried it you really should). Floggers are a slight step up from spanking but not all that much (try one if you don't believe me). Caning is pretty much the most advanced in this area (except for the bull whip) but most people don't care for it (although some do). My current girlfriend loves the cane if administered correctly.

The media? All they care about is ratings and who's buying they're air time. So if its not sensational or titillating they won't be objective.

Although I must admit, your use of the word "dangerous" does get at my point, and that is that vanilla sex, which assuming a "yes" to question 2 above, isn't enough. So, to get the psychological satisfaction you want out of sex, you find it useful to engage in S&M. My point is that vanilla sex provides many, if not most, people, if given the opportunity to engage in it, the psychological satisfaction they're looking for.

All people in the area of sex should only do what they are comfortable with. If BDSM isn't for you then thats fine. Just remember that all people are not alike. "Dangerous" doesn't just mean BDSM. It could mean public sex or sex in dangerous places. Please remember the saying of "safe, sane and consensual". If all agree and are into it then it should be OK.

The other point I wanted to get at was the inanity of female fantasies about 50 Shades, which is more about being with a rich guy than being some bizarre sexual contractor. I also think that, to most women and/or potential subs (I'm more educated than you might think), S&M sounds way better than it actually is. It reminds me of a Nina Hartley quote about job opportunities at kink.com from an episode about S&M from Ginger Lynn's old podcast, "They're pretty full up on doms up there." No doubt, Nina, no doubt.

Well, again, I can't comment on 50 Shades. But I do know a bit about women's fantasies. I've helped a few women make them come to life (usually with positive responses). Have yet to run into any women (in the lifestyle) all that interested in a rich man fantasy but I think I know what you mean. Again, "safe, sane and consensual" is the key. If you can make something happen safely, and your sure she really wants it, then the rewards can be tremendous. From my experience, maybe the most popular for some females, is double penetration. Of course, they'll mostly initially say no way but eventually you may find they really do have an interest. Have done it with a few who really enjoyed it but will probably never do it again. But who knows.

In my experience, you either are a sub or you are not. People who are completely subs are actually kind of rare, most are switches. My current girlfriend is a sub with me but she has a side that wants to try topping. We're currently working on finding her a lady to start with and then, possibly, move on to a male sub at some time. We'll see, time will tell. If I've learned anything in live it is that things change.

Yeah, have to live Nina. She's not really one of my favorite porn stars but I love her educational efforts. Great lady. Hope she keeps on for a long time to come.

[Estreeter]

Originally Posted by garthok newo

looked up and said "I want you to tie me up." I've no idea why this freaked me out but changed the whole dynamic. And, no, I didn't tie her up.

I would have And as soon as I tied her up, I'd run out the door and never call her again


One place I won't have sex is in my kitchen That's sick
But some other persons kitchen is OK

[the flu]

I think it would have spiced up my cooking,maybe.....

Originally Posted by Estreeter

One place I won't have sex is in my kitchen That's sick
But some other persons kitchen is OK

My kitchen is 4 squaremeters,so it would have to be a skinny lassie!
I wouldn´t mind though,as long as she kept from fiddling with her cellphone during the act,that puts me off,big time.

[bb77]

I'm keen to try anything once, but I couldn't ever face having anything down my peehole. That is just too much.