What Have You Learned Today ? - Page 4

**Xexemedes** · July 7th, 2011, 02:04 AM

Today I learned to speak my heart and to get the unpleasant over with quickly:

Summary:

The GF has been pressuring Xexemedes to move in to my house.

When I have raised my doubts the GF says something gentle and soothing like : "Well you better get over it quickly" (verbatim actually)

Three times I have talked to her about this, civilly and logically, three times she said something like, "Oh....I'm sorry to hear that, now, we'll put my hutch over here, and get rid of your aquarium and ..."

So, finally, when her mail began to arrive

, Xexemedes had enough:

"You shall not pass!"

Start the second reel here with all the water works, and the "Why didn't you tell me sooner? (

) " and "This is not a good time to tell me this", and "I can't believe you're doing this, it is such a shock, I had no idea you felt this way. I don't know if I can ever trust you again (wtf

)"

So we took a "break" in dating for a while-she has moved into a beautiful apartment. I met her for lunch today, full circle now, and I was pretty sure that I did not want the relationship to go much further than the end of the lamb chops and mashed potatoes (excellent btw). But I decided to test the waters one last time.

We took a walk after lunch, went to an historic cemetery and I tried gently to discuss how I felt about her not listening to me and forcing her way into my house. She breezed it away and tried to turn it back on me. Then she said that lots of other couples have overcome far greater difficulties, and that maybe I (Xexemedes) needed some counseling. (Xexemedes was in counseling all winter-and I'll be damned if anyone but me makes that suggestion

)

That was the final straw. I told her there and then that I did not want to continue the relationship. She "didn't hear me" and I had to tell her three times, each with more clarity and surety, until finally with red rimmed eyes she said, "well thats it then". I walked her back to her work, gave her a hug and drove away.

I had been putting this conversation off for a week or so now to avoid the discomfort of it all. But as I was speaking the words I knew they were all true. I feel stronger, more confident, more mature even, and I know that by facing the uncomfortable today I was doing the best thing for Xexemedes' future.

Now I just have to figure out what to do about all our mutual friends on Face book

**billybunter** · July 7th, 2011, 04:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GreenSkull

Yeah providing you`re not paying

Today i learned , or re-learned that once my finger nails start stinging that`s probably the key to stop biting them

Look i don`t drink during the week and as you can plainly am still awake not off in the land of sweet snoozes , so of course i`m going to bite my nails.

If you ever venture over here GS i'll buy you enough beer and whiskey to put you asleep

**sweatyhat** · July 7th, 2011, 05:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by billybunter

I must confess it has been a few years since i launched a pavement display

As you all know there is no stopping it. I'm a very LOUD person when I throw up. And take ten minutes to complete. I used to fall into a garden and sleep it off. Now I drink tea.

NEVER crash out in an urban garden. They're full of dog turds, cat piss and the vomit of others who (probably) made it home.
I once took the "hotel" option and slept behind the sofa in a strange house. I managed to escape undetected in the morning.
Another time I copped some zeez on the beach. There was much hilarity amongst onlookers viewing from the promenade as the tide rolled in.
Happy daze.

**palo5** · July 7th, 2011, 06:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GreenSkull

i've learnt today that if i Mod while i work i can get distracted then miss things

Ah...

Divided attention equals multiplied troubles, Comrade GS

**billybunter** · July 7th, 2011, 08:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sweatyhat

NEVER crash out in an urban garden. They're full of dog turds, cat piss and the vomit of others who (probably) made it home.
I once took the "hotel" option and slept behind the sofa in a strange house. I managed to escape undetected in the morning.
Another time I copped some zeez on the beach. There was much hilarity amongst onlookers viewing from the promenade as the tide rolled in.
Happy daze.

Many moons ago I was a member of a sea angling club. A lot of booze was taken

two members passed out on the beach as the tide was coming in. We had to save them or they would have drowned the silly buggers.

**sweatyhat** · July 7th, 2011, 08:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by billybunter

Many moons ago I was a member of a sea angling club. A lot of booze was taken

two members passed out on the beach as the tide was coming in. We had to save them or they would have drowned the silly buggers.

Imagine if you'd all scrambled over the rocks for access to the best spot?

blatt · July 7th, 2011, 01:51 PM

Today i have learned that people on here talk about me behind my back

But that i couldnt be happier about it

**billybunter** · July 7th, 2011, 02:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blatt

Today i have learned that people on here talk about me behind my back

But that i couldnt be happier about it

Not me buddy! Don't like back stabbers

Estreeter · July 7th, 2011, 02:59 PM

What I Learned Today

After reading the thread title for the first time I learned that my memory is in fine working order, it reminded me of something I heard many years ago, was still at school, went like this

The more I learn the more I forget, the more I forget the less I know, the less I know the stupider I am, so why learn ?

Make sense

**ubu_roi** · July 7th, 2011, 03:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Estreeter

The more I learn the more I forget, the more I forget the less I know, the less I know the stupider I am, so why learn ?

Isn't that the Fox News motto?

Ah, no my mistake - it's the motto of Fox News viewers.

July 7th, 2011, 02:04 AM	#31
Xexemedes Vintage Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: USA Posts: 472 Thanks: 31,031 Thanked 10,281 Times in 473 Posts	Today I learned to speak my heart and to get the unpleasant over with quickly: Summary: The GF has been pressuring Xexemedes to move in to my house. When I have raised my doubts the GF says something gentle and soothing like : "Well you better get over it quickly" (verbatim actually) Three times I have talked to her about this, civilly and logically, three times she said something like, "Oh....I'm sorry to hear that, now, we'll put my hutch over here, and get rid of your aquarium and ..." So, finally, when her mail began to arrive , Xexemedes had enough: "You shall not pass!" Start the second reel here with all the water works, and the "Why didn't you tell me sooner? () " and "This is not a good time to tell me this", and "I can't believe you're doing this, it is such a shock, I had no idea you felt this way. I don't know if I can ever trust you again (wtf )" So we took a "break" in dating for a while-she has moved into a beautiful apartment. I met her for lunch today, full circle now, and I was pretty sure that I did not want the relationship to go much further than the end of the lamb chops and mashed potatoes (excellent btw). But I decided to test the waters one last time. We took a walk after lunch, went to an historic cemetery and I tried gently to discuss how I felt about her not listening to me and forcing her way into my house. She breezed it away and tried to turn it back on me. Then she said that lots of other couples have overcome far greater difficulties, and that maybe I (Xexemedes) needed some counseling. (Xexemedes was in counseling all winter-and I'll be damned if anyone but me makes that suggestion) That was the final straw. I told her there and then that I did not want to continue the relationship. She "didn't hear me" and I had to tell her three times, each with more clarity and surety, until finally with red rimmed eyes she said, "well thats it then". I walked her back to her work, gave her a hug and drove away. I had been putting this conversation off for a week or so now to avoid the discomfort of it all. But as I was speaking the words I knew they were all true. I feel stronger, more confident, more mature even, and I know that by facing the uncomfortable today I was doing the best thing for Xexemedes' future. Now I just have to figure out what to do about all our mutual friends on Face book __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Blessings young children: sleep peacefully and well. Let the grown-ups sleep not, but open their eyes. Last edited by Xexemedes; July 7th, 2011 at 03:28 AM..

July 7th, 2011, 01:51 PM	#37
blatt Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: South London Posts: 400 Thanks: 16,587 Thanked 5,519 Times in 398 Posts	Today i have learned that people on here talk about me behind my back But that i couldnt be happier about it __________________ I am a true family guy ! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

July 7th, 2011, 02:59 PM	#39
Estreeter *Administrator* Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: The 19th hole Posts: 58,120 Thanks: 449,724 Thanked 896,854 Times in 60,322 Posts	Twisted Logic What I Learned Today After reading the thread title for the first time I learned that my memory is in fine working order, it reminded me of something I heard many years ago, was still at school, went like this The more I learn the more I forget, the more I forget the less I know, the less I know the stupider I am, so why learn ? Make sense __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

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