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February 20th, 2017, 06:50 PM | #1 |
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can't get it up when I'm with women I don't know that well... is this normal?
can't get it up when I'm with women I don't know that well... is this normal?
for example, new dates... or prostitutes at legal brothels in the US or EU. (yes, I'm not ashamed to admit this) I've always had this "problem" even as a much younger man. However, if I know the woman well, I get almost an instant boner as soon as I'm in bed with her... |
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February 20th, 2017, 06:57 PM | #2 |
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If you can get one with women you know well, then clearly its not a physical but psychological issue. Its most likely performance anxiety kicking in which kills the erection, especially with new dates. Your brain is overloaded with anxiety so its failing to send the right messages to your dick and so not enough blood is getting to where it needs to be. Thus resulting in either a poor erection or none at all.
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February 20th, 2017, 07:07 PM | #3 | |
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So I would characterise myself as a guy who likes relationships - closeness, not just mechanical sex. And if the lady in question is worth the effort, she will be equally understanding and appreciative of the care you put in to getting it to feel "right". Do things your own way and do not worry about male stereotypes. |
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February 20th, 2017, 11:02 PM | #4 |
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Happened to me once but it was with a girl I'd known and lusted after for a few years.
She was f*cking gorgeous but for some reason I couldn't get my copulatory organ to perform - hard at each end and soft in the middle it was !!! Anyway next morning, once the booze and drugs had worn off, it was hard enough to break coal and I gave her a right seeing to!! |
February 20th, 2017, 11:21 PM | #5 |
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I think it's performance anxiety, as was mentioned already. You are so worried that she's not going to think you're good enough at it that you can't do it at all. Or, you're so worried that she's going to think your dick isn't big enough, or whatever, that you're too nervous about whipping it out, that it's keeping you from performing. The women you know better aren't causing you to have that problem...I would presume they've already seen your dick and/or you've had sex with them already...because you've gotten past the anxiety point with them.
It's definitely not physical or you wouldn't be able to get it up at all. What the cure is something only you can fix. Meaning, getting past the anxiety point that you're at now. |
February 21st, 2017, 09:17 AM | #6 |
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February 21st, 2017, 09:25 AM | #7 |
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February 21st, 2017, 10:29 AM | #8 |
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Just remember, and this doesn't apply to the OP, that if you suffer from erectile dysfunction for longer than a few weeks its best to get seen by a Doctor. ED is one of the first signs of potential heart disease and is as good a marker as family history, high blood pressure and other well known signs. The reason is that the arteries to the penis are smaller and if they are clogging up its a sign others will elsewhere. People often just pop a pill and think that is the problem solved. The problem is not solved though as the underlying cause is being ignored.
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