Porn vs. Reality - Anal Sex

[old alal]

Originally Posted by 9876543210

old alal,
I think, if you go back through the thread, you'll find all kinds of warnings about going back and forth between vagina and anus. Thats the best way I know of to get an infection in both the male and female (yes, a male can get an infection in there).

Good advice ....to others. The incident I described happened way before the internet never mind this forum or my membership of it!

It was over 40 years ago and I wasn't quite as knowledgeable as I am now. As for the rest of your suggestions, thanks again, but it is for others, as I said "It's a no from me" end of!

[Schwenck]

I have had anal intercourse with a few girls. Most were happy to try it (a few would not countenance it), but none of them became fans of it and begged for further bum fucks. For men, it's a different sensation, but there is not much friction unless you pull back to the anal orifice, where you get some grip. I think I like the concept of it, in porn pictures, more than actually doing it myself.

I think it is one of those things you try just to say you have done it, and while it obviously works for some, it is not on repeat for most people.

Only going by the porn I have seen and read, anal sex seems to be much more popular in Germany.

[Pinkpapercut]

This thread has been around for most of a decade and I've thought about posting but have held back because I didn't feel I had much to add.

Reading through it today I decided I could add a few observations...

It should go without saying that sex in porn resembles sex in real life only in as far as both involve people with their genitals in conjunction. Just to state one obvious example, sexual acts in porn are performed in unlikely and uncomfortable poses so that the camera can capture a penis penetrating a vagina, an anus, a mouth and so on.

Similarly, in porn anal sex there's little depiction of how hard it can sometimes be to get the head of one's cock through a woman's anal sphinctre and there is, or there used to be, little acknowledgement that during anal sex the woman's shit might make an appearance.

I say 'used to be' because in recent years I've seen quite a few 'conventional' anal sex videos where there are unedited moments when there is at least a marginal incidental presence of the actress's shit.

Four scenes come immediately to mind. I don't want to mention the actresses names where I'm not absolutely sure of them, but one scene in which a quite well known hispanic porn actress has been receiving a buggering doggy style and on withdrawal from her anus the porn actor's cockhead inscribed a wet brown arc from her anus along the inside of her left buttock, another scene in which another well-known porn actress takes a buggering in the hatchback of an estate car, attempts a cum-fart and emits brown mucus with tiny flecks of shit mixed in with the goo, a scene where Jade Mynx after a doggy style buggering attempts a cum-fart but in the process emits a small turd and even laughs commenting something like 'oops, I guess that's going to bring me a lot of new fans' and a scene from an anal video on a DVD I bought around 2006, 13 years ago now, were another moderately well-known porn actress presents her backside for penetration and on holding her cheeks apart displays an unwiped bottom. The porn actor just slid his cock up her dirty bum without fuss.

As I said, these scenes were all in 'conventional' anal sex videos and were incidental to the action.

I don't doubt that as other posters have observed this constitutes obscenity under US law and isn't protected as artistic. That said, a lot of it has been getting under the radar for years. This is stuff I've come across by chance so I expect there's more of out there that I haven't seen.

As I said above I suspect some of this stuff is getting through because there are so many niche video producers nowadays but I think a lot of it has become semi-acceptable because of the nearly 30 years of the eroticisation of the female anus by John Stagliano and the people around him over those decades from Rocco Siffredi to Belladonna and the rest of the arse-obsessed crew. And that's not to mention the likes of Seymour Butts and Ben Dover.

I don't want to be a hypocrite, in my own small way I'm one of them.

Now onto a more personal note...

I'm going back around 45 years to my teens when I had anal with a few early girlfriends. Anal wasn't something I was after at the time but I was pressing them for sex as a teenage lad will and they preferred to take it up their bums rather then let me take their virginities.

I discussed it with a couple of them and they said they found anal a less yucky thought than sucking a dick.

I suppose that makes sense, sucking a dick the girl has to cope with the mess, a girl taking it up the bum the bloke has to cope with the mess.

I've not had a woman up her bum since I turned 20 and as the saying goes 'the past is another country, they do things differently there'.

Anyway long story short, we usually had to do it in secluded public places, we were all still living at our parents on small council estates in the North West of England, so the sex was rough and ready and quasi-public, often after a date.

I'm not saying the girls were unclean but there wasn't much time for preparation beforehand so there were usually residues going in and more residues coming out and two or three times skidmarks in their knickers.

I didn't find it off-putting, it added to the sense of naughtiness and I was still getting my cock inside them which was what mattered to me.

I'm surprised by men who fantasise about and even practice anal sex with their women but find the messier aspects deeply yucky. It's her bottom for God's sake, it has two main purposes: 1) stopping her from overbalancing and falling flat on her face when she's standing 2) for her to pooh out of, so if you want your cock in her rectum her pooh is quite likely to be in the mix. If you find that so distasteful then keep away.

I've come to wonder if many men who fantasise about bum-banging women or looking at it in porn find the thought exciting because they think it's degrading for the woman but don't find the act exciting in itself.

I haven't had a girl anally since I was 20, I've asked but have never insisted and have alwaystaken 'no' for an answer. The refusal has commonly been accompanied by a girlfriend saying "there's no pleasure in that for me" or "eww, do you like that? It's the wrong hole/it's my pooh hole".

That was also the impression I got from the girls I bummed in my teens, that although they were content to let me do it as a thank-you for a nice night out as a substitute for proper - ie vaginal - sex, it was pleasureless and uncomfortable for them.

Set my tastes for life though, anal and women's bottoms are my go-to things in porn and I love to rim a woman as much as I love to eat out her cunny.

[scottx]

Not a fan of anal either in real life or watching porn. Some openings are exit only!

[KissArmy]

When I got it for the first (and last) time, the reality of the act itself was really like what you see in porn. I went right in, it felt amazing, and there was no mess afterwards.

But that's where the similarity ended. She wasn't expecting it, she cursed me out pretty good, and I won't be getting it again. You won't see that in porn...

[fenland]

My wife loves anal, as long as my cock is well lubed up. She says one of her best fucks ever was when she sucked my cock hard as I sat on the sofa. She then covered it in KY jelly and with her back to me she lowered her ass onto my cock. this gave my hands accesses to her tits and pussy and she could turn her head enough so we could kiss. Her first orgasm was as she used a dildo on herself, the second as I fingered her and kissed her the third as she rocked on my cock and she played with her pussy the whole time with my cock up her ass.

[muggly]

Before I retired I used to sit in the work's staff room and listen to the crazy discussions that went on between the late-teenage girls, the middle aged men and a mixture of twenty/thirties mum's and occasional visiting guests and there would always be the topic that was sexual thrown into the mix of discussion. One girl who was 25 and petite but very pretty was quite outspoken and we learned that she loved sex but tried a threesome and didn't like it and wasn't too keen on having her pussy licked if she had to have contact with the same mouth that washed her vulva, and definitely anal sex was an absolute no-no with the post coital mess and hygeine issues. From the other side of the room came a voice from a pretty 18 year old very much a street level girl who said she loved a bit of anal before getting off with him and finishing with a cum swallow. Those of us who were still standing had to sit down or leave with our minds completely boggled. Three older women said they wouldn't let anything other than toilet paper near their bum holes but one guy in his thirties was smirking all the way through the conversation. It did seem by concensus that the younger women were more savvy with anal sex than those who were nearer to middle age. It was as if they were desensitised to the act as it was part of their education through watching porn and being expected it should be an option by their partner. It was the younger ones who had porn vids on their phones, either downloaded or of their own making. I definitely think it is almost a regular thing to partake in for today's youth. When I was 17/18 my biology and anatomy education was pretty comprehensive about sex but nothing was said about anal. I wonder what gets said nowadays in sex-ed classes.

[intersex2500]

I've only succeeded in having anal sex with my wife. I tried with an earlier girlfriend, but we didn't succeed. My wife doesn't love it and it's been a few years since she got an anal tear during childbirth, but there were occasions during which she gave it to me as a big present and, contrary to the original poster, I found it better than vaginal sex, tighter all the way around (and her pussy is tight). Ejaculating inside her butt was an incredible feeling, probably the best orgasms I ever had.

[J J]

I’m fortunate to have tried it with two women. I love it particularly when I cum inside her.

I think I like it because there is still a perceived “naughtiness” about it.

Like most things you have to be with the right person

[Pinkpapercut]

Originally Posted by muggly

Before I retired I used to sit in the work's staff room and listen to the crazy discussions that went on between the late-teenage girls, the middle aged men and a mixture of twenty/thirties mum's and occasional visiting guests and there would always be the topic that was sexual thrown into the mix of discussion

Your reminiscence of listening to canteen discussions of late teenage girls etc reminded me of how I got in with an early girlfriend who I'll call Julie G.

Julie was a very pretty redhead with a well-developed body for a teen. She was in my art class. One sunny day we were taken out into the local park by the art tutor supposedly to draw but effectively just to enjoy the early summer day.

The Art Group was preponderantly female, I think there were only three males in it, and Julie was nearby sitting under the shade of a tree and talking with two or three of the other females.

They were talking about boyfriends. Julie mentioned that she had broken up with her boyfriend at the weekend after he had pressured her in the grounds of the local church to let him 'root' her. It was obvious from the response of the other girls that they had very little sexual experience. One of them asked "what does 'root' mean Julie?" and Julie had to explain that it meant shagging.

As you can imagine I was riveted by this conversation.

It turned out that Julie had refused to shag the boyfriend but had offered to let him bum her which he turned down in disgust and continued to press for vaginal sex.

There were coos of disgust from the other girls at Julie's mention of her willingness to take a bumming, mostly of the 'how could you, I'd be embarrassed to let a lad touch my bum-hole' or "eww that's dirty" type.

Julie brushed all of this off with 'it feels no worse than having a poo and the lad deserves something. It usually feels quite nice actually, like having a big poo'.

More "eww Julie's" from her friends.

Julie's justifications for accepting anal were her desire to keep her virginity but to give boyfriends penetrative sex as a reward.

I'd fancied Julie for a while but considered her above my league. Hearing this talk emboldened me with the hope that if I went out with her for a while I'd be in with a chance of shagging her up her arse. Julie was the first girl I'd seriously fancied rather than just seen as a potential sexual opportunity and inexperienced as I was the chance to do her even just up her bum was something I didn't want to let slip out of my grasp.

A couple of art sessions later I asked her out and we started dating. For the first few weeks it was a matter of kissing, cuddling, feeling one another up in the cinema - we had a local second run cinema with huge Pullman seats and double-seats at the back where couples would feel one another up and wank one another off and sometimes the girls would suck off their boyfriends.

Julide wouldn't suck me off but nothing else was out of bounds.

We'd been going out for around six weeks when after so particularly exciting date she's been looking forward to (a gig) I said to her when taking her home "you know I love you Julie but I'm desperate to shag you. Go on, let me shag you".

I knew where the conversation would probably lead. She said no to the shagging but said 'I really like you, I wouldn't mind if you shagged me up my bottom".

She agreed that we do it almost there and then. It was late and the white of her dress stood out brightly in the street-light and we went behind a nearby secluded public library more or less in its own grounds where after a little kissing and cuddling against the back wall she said "I can feel you're ready" referring to my hard-on pressing against her through my flies, she turned around and and ruched up the skirt of her white dress over the small of her back, I helped her pull down her white knickers, and she braced herself with her left hand against the wall and parted the cheeks of her shapely pale bottom with the other and said 'come on'. and then a little unnecessarily added 'I went to the loo just before we left to come home, I hope I wiped properly".

Apart from a couple of thin skid marks on her knickers her bottom was clean despite.

I don't want to turn this into a blow by blow description of the sex itself. Suffice it to say that I took out my now painful erection and after a little resistance and help from Julie I got the head through the muscular sphinctre of her arsehole.

I went in clean and on that occasion I came out clean too.

It wasn't tender loving sex, it was vigorous pumping of her passively offered 'wrong hole' and it was over in 3 minutes tops. Julie wasn't responsive, she had just made her bottom available but despite all that it was the most memorable sex I've ever had. It's become the sexual experience against which I measure all others.

The relationship didn't last, we dated a few times more but I never saw Julie again after our art sessions finished but even now well over 40 years later I wonder what happened to her.

I may have passed her in the street often and not recognised the girl in the middle aged woman.

Anyway, all this because I nosily listened in on some teenage girls talking dirty about boyfriends.