Irrational? Fear Of Rejection By Women

[chris chunt]

Originally Posted by Motorboater

It's not about fear of rejection. It's not irrational. It's all biological/mental. That paralysing effect that happens automatically when you freeze at the opportunity? It's supposedly your survival instincts kickin in.

Your survival instincts only kick in when you're vulnerable. I think that's why sometimes you get the advice to not give a shit and go for it. If you don't care if you (metaphorically) get burned by the chick, you're not vulnerable. You then go for it.

that's it .
if you're not afraid of being turned down and take the whole notion of trying to sell yourself to women and dating as just a bit of fun eventually the girl who really likes you and wants to see you again arrives .

a woman's sexuality is the one power she has over a man .
they know how much we lust over them ( what's this whole website about other than birds with no clothes on ? ) and when it comes to turning you down the occasional one will enjoy humiliating you .
you've just got to pick yourself up learn a little from the experience if need be ( but don't dwell on it ) and pursue the next girl .

[AmateurEmale]

@Motorboater: Only by flooding the market, so to speak, with haremsful of hotties all over the planet, can you have multiple plans for different groups or sources of girls, and then try for several of them. You might do it one at a time, but there's always another where any ex- came from. I wonder how Flynt, Hefner, or Guccione handled this issue?!

[chris chunt]

Originally Posted by Motorboater

It's not about fear of rejection. It's not irrational. It's all biological/mental. That paralysing effect that happens automatically when you freeze at the opportunity? It's supposedly your survival instincts kickin in.

Your survival instincts only kick in when you're vulnerable. I think that's why sometimes you get the advice to not give a shit and go for it. If you don't care if you (metaphorically) get burned by the chick, you're not vulnerable. You then go for it.

the right amount of alcohol helps in not giving a shit and just going for it .
a social lubricant in a party atmosphere .
she will have had a few too and might be in a playful mood .
parties and nightclubs don't just get you the girls number they also get you kissing and a good feel of things right there and then .

if your current friends are stick in the muds who don't party dump them and find some who do

[teaktop]

Practice makes perfect,approach the girl without sex on your mind{well we always have sex on our mind]but in a relaxed fashion as if you want to talk about the weather, without the heavy panting your sooo horny you've gone cross eyed scary face look.
Oh and drooling dosent help ,also your remove your hand from your trouser pocket,wanking whilst asking is a definite no no.
I also suggest a daytime accidental meet ,go for coffee ,take a walk in her direction but move on after 5 mins ,things like that.

[Ninjaturtle]

Best medicine, dismiss a woman....get revenge

[chris chunt]

I went thru a patch where I couldn't get laid to save my life .
Anyhow not too far away was a strip club .
The girls took their clothes off obviously but also rubbed their tits in your face and got on all 4s on the seat next to you so you could inspect the bumhole and general undercarriage area .
I found it took the edge off things .
Next time I was with a girl I quite liked I wasn't as flustered or tongue tied .
Seeing the strippers and feeling some naked female flesh pressed against me calmed me more than just having a wank over a magazine .
Next time I was with a girl I liked at the back of my mind was the thought I could go back anytime I like to see more pussy if it doesn't work out with her so I was more relaxed and willing to joke about and stuff .

Try that if you easily get flustered around girls .

[AmateurEmale]

@Guys: I wonder if you could just openly tell her "I want to pursue you romantically and sexually. I will stay faithful, and I want the long-term relationship to see where it leads." It's like a more explicit version of dating websites, but you can say it straight to her face while making strong eye contact and touching her body.

I don't want a girl who is sexually inhibited, just a girl who will stay faithful.

[chris chunt]

I had titties rubbed in my face last night at the end of a second date with a bird I met online dating .
We went just about as far as we could in my car in a little layby on the way home .

She was attempt no 12 I think .
The other 11 told me to fuck off after 1 date .
That's not to mention the 100s if not 1000s that ignored me or told me to get lost online .

Date no 5 was a little bitch who spat venom in my face at the end of it .
Although humiliated I come to the conclusion it was her problem not mine and looked for the next girl .

After last night I'm walking about with a permanent stiffy and all I can think of is wobbly melons the ladies have on their chests .

Its the numbers game that gets you girls .
That and developing a thick skin where they can hurt you and insult you all they like ( and they will )but you just dust yourself off and look for the next one

[Sir Honkers]

The real tragedy is, that by the time you're confident enough in yourself not to angst over what women might think of you, you're too old to be attractive to them

[Motorboater]

Originally Posted by loosegoose

The real tragedy is, that by the time you're confident enough in yourself not to angst over what women might think of you, you're too old to be attractive to them

I can think of numerous girls where I've finally found the strength to ask them out. My only problem is, is that I haven't seen them for 10-15 years.

Originally Posted by AmateurEmale

@Guys: I wonder if you could just openly tell her "I want to pursue you romantically and sexually. I will stay faithful, and I want the long-term relationship to see where it leads." It's like a more explicit version of dating websites, but you can say it straight to her face while making strong eye contact and touching her body.

I wouldn't recommend it. I'd imagine it'd ring alarm bells for the chick. Even if they were initially accepting of you at first glance.

Originally Posted by AmateurEmale

I don't want a girl who is sexually inhibited, just a girl who will stay faithful.

Good luck with that...