Question about a girl

Jamess · May 13th, 2016, 11:36 PM

There's this girl I've been giving lessons individually in an institute for some time. Both of us are adults. And I started to like her.

The thing is, what should I do? Should I tell her, if so how? Or what advice can you give me as to how to handle this? Thanks.

**otokonomidori** · May 14th, 2016, 12:00 AM

Where there's a will there's a way !! ! For example, my son gave guitar lessons to an autistic boy - not much opporchancity there you might think - but he ended up humping the kid's mother!

**Motorboater** · May 14th, 2016, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by otokonomidori

Where there's a will there's a way !! ! For example, my son gave guitar lessons to an autistic boy - not much opporchancity there you might think - but he ended up humping the kid's mother!

Lol

**thunderfly** · May 14th, 2016, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Jamess

There's this girl I've been giving lessons individually in an institute for some time. Both of us are adults. And I started to like her.

The thing is, what should I do? Should I tell her, if so how? Or what advice can you give me as to how to handle this? Thanks.

I'd say the trick is to get her to like you. If you can do this by the way you interact with her then you're home and dry. Just talk to her, treat her with respect and make her feel special but don't put her on a pedestal or come across as 'needy'. If she gets to like you, she'll like being with you and then want to be with you. Things should take off from there.

Jamess · May 15th, 2016, 05:46 PM

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I'd say the trick is to get her to like you. If you can do this by the way you interact with her then you're home and dry. Just talk to her, treat her with respect and make her feel special but don't put her on a pedestal or come across as 'needy'. If she gets to like you, she'll like being with you and then want to be with you. Things should take off from there.

Thanks for your input.

Making her feel special by saying or doing what, for example? A small gift here and there?

**thunderfly** · May 15th, 2016, 07:22 PM

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Thanks for your input.

Making her feel special by saying or doing what, for example? A small gift here and there?

By complimenting her, by holding doors open. Make a woman laugh and you'll make her happy. Be a good listener. I wouldn't start buying her gifts until you're actually in a relationship. If she enjoys being with you because of the way you treat her, she'll want to be with you as much as possible and she'll be thinking of you when she's not with you.

**cicciobuki** · May 15th, 2016, 10:13 PM

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By complimenting her, by holding doors open. Make a woman laugh and you'll make her happy. Be a good listener. I wouldn't start buying her gifts until you're actually in a relationship. If she enjoys being with you because of the way you treat her, she'll want to be with you as much as possible and she'll be thinking of you when she's not with you.

Good advice, but keep in mind you can also get in the friendzone this way.

**Sir Honkers** · May 15th, 2016, 10:38 PM

Faint heart never won fair maid.
Take it as gospel from someone who took years to learn the truth of that. Tell her you like her and ask her out for coffee. Just don't over think your approach.
And as for 'what if she says no.' Well what if she does, it's not the death of civilization.
And what if she'd have said yes, but you never find out because you never ask her.

**bawjaws** · May 16th, 2016, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Jamess

There's this girl I've been giving lessons individually in an institute for some time. Both of us are adults. And I started to like her.

The thing is, what should I do? Should I tell her, if so how? Or what advice can you give me as to how to handle this? Thanks.

depends what kind of institute she's in.. if it's for the criminally insane ,I might give her a miss

**Motorboater** · May 16th, 2016, 08:09 AM

It's like with batting in cricket. You've got to have the right attitude to get positive results. Otherwise, you're just going to play the ball and knick it.

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Sir Honkers Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Land Of Glorious Leader Posts: 30,436 Thanks: 287,480 Thanked 387,203 Times in 30,392 Posts	Faint heart never won fair maid. Take it as gospel from someone who took years to learn the truth of that. Tell her you like her and ask her out for coffee. Just don't over think your approach. And as for 'what if she says no.' Well what if she does, it's not the death of civilization. And what if she'd have said yes, but you never find out because you never ask her.

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Motorboater Vintage Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 4,335 Thanks: 41,570 Thanked 38,544 Times in 4,309 Posts	It's like with batting in cricket. You've got to have the right attitude to get positive results. Otherwise, you're just going to play the ball and knick it.