Do You Know People Like This?

Mikka41 · October 16th, 2016, 12:03 PM

I met a woman last year, mature woman, part of a support group and network I belonged to. A lot of closeted people and things in there. Alcoholics not being able to cop to alcohol, therefore they're in there talking about everything but. i.e. Their neighbors, children, being bugged by this, that, the other thing. Not a big deal or unusual, right? Okay this one woman I've become friends with following our leaving the group at different times. She's one of those people that's forever "diagnosing" others. She opines that her son is Bipolar, has a lot of Bipolar tendencies, behaves "just like" his ex-Dad used to. Opines that her other friend has Schizophrenic tendencies, qualities, etc. The question is have you ever met or let someone into your life that seems to psycho-analyze everyone around her/them? Cuz lately she's been psycho-analyzing me, i.e. I'll go over and it'll start like a therapy session: Have I been sleeping well, i.e. getting enough sleep? Suggesting that maybe I look hideous or something. It's the after-effect for those people who've had a lot of therapy. They become obsessed with therapy. Then as amateurs begin playing therapist to everyone around them. How do you handle these people?

**philll_77** · October 16th, 2016, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikka41

Then as amateurs begin playing therapist to everyone around them. How do you handle these people?

Run.

**seany65** · October 16th, 2016, 07:19 PM

Try and get her to analyze why she does it, ie. become her therapist...

**Gladys Allova** · October 16th, 2016, 09:50 PM

Yeah, I would take steps

Bloody big ones in the opposite direction

**thunderfly** · October 16th, 2016, 11:41 PM

The world is full of armchair psychologists/psychiatrists. I've even had it over the internet on forums (not this one) where a person will quote your post and then 'dissect' it into (easy to manage) paragraphs before commenting on each one. I even called the girl/woman who did this to me an 'armchair psychologist' and she didn't like it. It stopped her doing it again though.
In your case, I would give short and to the point answers to her questions and then ask her the very same thing before she can fire off the next question. "I've been sleeping fine thanks, how have you been sleeping?" She'll soon get fed up with doing it to you if you do it back to her. Most people can't handle their own medicine for very long.

**pharoahegypt** · October 17th, 2016, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by seany65

Try and get her to analyze why she does it, ie. become her therapist...

But don't forget to charge her a shit load of money for your time....!!

edgarcasey · October 17th, 2016, 07:13 AM

Had a couple of girlfriends who were like this. (Notice the past tense)
Needless to say, they were both profoundly annoying.
The first was decades ago. For some reason, she felt compelled to analyze, with the utmost intensity, absolutely everything. The second was more recent (still 15 years ago). She wasn't as bad, but still...
I'm reminded of a lyric from the great Michael Franks:

All those books upon your shelf
Did they teach you how to cure yourself
Not even Sigmund Freud
Could save you from the love you destroyed

**chris chunt** · October 17th, 2016, 07:22 AM

There's a lot of that pibolar disorder about according to some people .
And there's plenty of amateur psychiatrists waiting to diagnose .
They read some sort of medical book and think they're a doctor

**thunderfly** · October 17th, 2016, 08:43 AM

I think when someone does it to their partner in a relationship it just highlights their own insecurities.

**@llatse@** · October 17th, 2016, 09:32 AM

Get your knob out and say "Analyse this baby"......be something more useful to do with her gob than spouting crap.

I should write a self help book

October 16th, 2016, 12:03 PM	#1
Mikka41 Member Join Date: Sep 2016 Posts: 37 Thanks: 410 Thanked 202 Times in 28 Posts	Do You Know People Like This? I met a woman last year, mature woman, part of a support group and network I belonged to. A lot of closeted people and things in there. Alcoholics not being able to cop to alcohol, therefore they're in there talking about everything but. i.e. Their neighbors, children, being bugged by this, that, the other thing. Not a big deal or unusual, right? Okay this one woman I've become friends with following our leaving the group at different times. She's one of those people that's forever "diagnosing" others. She opines that her son is Bipolar, has a lot of Bipolar tendencies, behaves "just like" his ex-Dad used to. Opines that her other friend has Schizophrenic tendencies, qualities, etc. The question is have you ever met or let someone into your life that seems to psycho-analyze everyone around her/them? Cuz lately she's been psycho-analyzing me, i.e. I'll go over and it'll start like a therapy session: Have I been sleeping well, i.e. getting enough sleep? Suggesting that maybe I look hideous or something. It's the after-effect for those people who've had a lot of therapy. They become obsessed with therapy. Then as amateurs begin playing therapist to everyone around them. How do you handle these people? Last edited by Mikka41; October 16th, 2016 at 12:04 PM.. Reason: Clarity

October 16th, 2016, 07:19 PM	#3
seany65 Vintage Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 3,651 Thanks: 80,415 Thanked 32,734 Times in 3,527 Posts	Try and get her to analyze why she does it, ie. become her therapist... __________________ <-- That's Emer Kenny and I want to be stuck in her front bottom. Quote from electrofreak : I'd rather have questions that can't be answered, than answers that can't be questioned.

October 17th, 2016, 09:32 AM	#10
@llatse@ Vintage Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Over the hills and far away Posts: 2,150 Thanks: 7,750 Thanked 24,861 Times in 2,098 Posts	Get your knob out and say "Analyse this baby"......be something more useful to do with her gob than spouting crap. I should write a self help book __________________ Lord, we might end up dead or worse, poor

October 16th, 2016, 09:50 PM	#4
Gladys Allova Vintage Member Join Date: Feb 2016 Location: A man's gotta chew what a man's gotta chew.. Posts: 4,990 Thanks: 67,890 Thanked 89,741 Times in 4,990 Posts	Yeah, I would take steps Bloody big ones in the opposite direction

October 16th, 2016, 11:41 PM	#5
thunderfly Vintage Member Join Date: Sep 2013 Posts: 896 Thanks: 6,620 Thanked 11,386 Times in 896 Posts	The world is full of armchair psychologists/psychiatrists. I've even had it over the internet on forums (not this one) where a person will quote your post and then 'dissect' it into (easy to manage) paragraphs before commenting on each one. I even called the girl/woman who did this to me an 'armchair psychologist' and she didn't like it. It stopped her doing it again though. In your case, I would give short and to the point answers to her questions and then ask her the very same thing before she can fire off the next question. "I've been sleeping fine thanks, how have you been sleeping?" She'll soon get fed up with doing it to you if you do it back to her. Most people can't handle their own medicine for very long.

October 17th, 2016, 07:13 AM	#7
edgarcasey Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New Jersey, USA and Manila, Philippines Posts: 305 Thanks: 3,658 Thanked 3,759 Times in 303 Posts	Had a couple of girlfriends who were like this. (Notice the past tense) Needless to say, they were both profoundly annoying. The first was decades ago. For some reason, she felt compelled to analyze, with the utmost intensity, absolutely everything. The second was more recent (still 15 years ago). She wasn't as bad, but still... I'm reminded of a lyric from the great Michael Franks: All those books upon your shelf Did they teach you how to cure yourself Not even Sigmund Freud Could save you from the love you destroyed

October 17th, 2016, 07:22 AM	#8
chris chunt Vintage Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 2,805 Thanks: 7,946 Thanked 36,406 Times in 2,765 Posts	There's a lot of that pibolar disorder about according to some people . And there's plenty of amateur psychiatrists waiting to diagnose . They read some sort of medical book and think they're a doctor

October 17th, 2016, 08:43 AM	#9
thunderfly Vintage Member Join Date: Sep 2013 Posts: 896 Thanks: 6,620 Thanked 11,386 Times in 896 Posts	I think when someone does it to their partner in a relationship it just highlights their own insecurities.