How do you cope with the lady in your life?

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I think this is the first proper thread I've started on VEF, I don’t think this has been asked before, if it has I couldn’t find it. This is a question I’ve wanted to ask, because I love this forum, and I’m hoping that Dr VEF might soothe me again.

I’ve posted in other threads about my marital discombobulations, posting here is my one form of catharsis (bizarrely). I was going to say that my wife is sometimes difficult to deal with, but she’s not just difficult. She’s impossible.

A quick example: she will attack me for ‘ignoring’ her, or on one occasion recently, for working while she was watching cute animal clickbait on youtube (don’t ask me how this is a crime, but apparently it is). And I don’t just mean that she gets irritated, I mean she launches a full on assault, and she will never, and I mean never, accept any responsibility for any wrongdoing. But she will expect, nay demand, that I engage with her in endless roundtable discussions about my 'misdeeds', which rather than helping just encourages her to go further next time.

I never really know what to do. I’ve noticed that a lot of guys on here are married or in long-term relationships, and I’m still young-ish, so I was hoping that other members might share their experiences, offer their advice, or just use this as a safe place to vent. Have you been with your partner a while? How do you cope? Do you even need to, or do you get along fine with your significant other? Or have you given up trying? Do you have somewhere that you go to, or someone you talk to, or some special words that you say to your good lady? Are you able to work through your problems calmly?

I’m too introvert to talk to my family or friends about this, this is why I use this forum as my therapy, so I am genuinely interested in any and all responses, whether they be long or short, serious or sarcastic.