How do you cope with the lady in your life?

[flake56]

I handle my wife with great care and attention. she is why I get places and on time and with zipper closed. thanks to her I am almost acceptable at public places (well except churches) now.

[Roubignol]

Originally Posted by rosestone

I'm afraid, my anonymous internet friends, that my marriage is over. Which is very depressing.

If you still love her and she doesn't hate you, maybe you could meet a psychologist specialised in couple?

And if she doesn't want... go back to your mummy (as example ) and make that YOUR own show must go on.

For sure that can be very depressing. I had my heart broken twice. Now looking at the past, I understand that's myself, who put me in such depressing mood.

That's maybe why, if you have to separate from your wife, try to meet friends, to do sports, to meditate, to travel, to take course of latino dances (there are a lot of women there. )... to be active. Don't think too much at the past. Present, only present. As much as you can.

But don't stay alone in front of your computer, smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol.
As long as you don't get a terminal cancer, your life is not over. That's only a page that's turn. Try to be positive.

[MaxJoker]

[rosestone]

Originally Posted by xyzde69

If you still love her and she doesn't hate you, maybe you could meet a psychologist specialised in couple?

And if she doesn't want... go back to your mummy (as example ) and make that YOUR own show must go on.

For sure that can be very depressing. I had my heart broken twice. Now looking at the past, I understand that's myself, who put me in such depressing mood.

That's maybe why, if you have to separate from your wife, try to meet friends, to do sports, to meditate, to travel, to take course of latino dances (there are a lot of women there. )... to be active. Don't think too much at the past. Present, only present. As much as you can.

But don't stay alone in front of your computer, smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol.
As long as you don't get a terminal cancer, your life is not over. That's only a page that's turn. Try to be positive.

Thanks xy, but I don't think couples counseling would help unfortunately, just more money wasted.

Don't have a "mummy" I'm afraid, she killed herself years ago. (Lol, I know, I'm such a ray of sunshine on this forum, aren't I??). So I don't actually know where I'll go, my marriage has cost me a lot, financially, and obviously I need to make sure my wife is okay. So........if you know anybody who needs some web design/programming, let me know......

I don't smoke or drink anymore, don't worry. It's my wife I'm worried about, she has a hard time with a lot of things, but, ya know, I really did try my best to help her. There's only so much I can take.

[Roubignol]

Do not forget. Domestic violence against men exists too.

In UK, 25% of domestic violence are perpetraded against MEN.
In Australia... even more.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN

Don't be manipulate. Women have no rights to treat you badly.

Speak Up: Domestic Abuse Against Men

I repeat... No RIGHTS to treat you badly.

[Roubignol]

Originally Posted by rosestone

So........if you know anybody who needs some web design/programming, let me know......

I'll. But I don't live in UK and don't get so many contacts in this kind of area.

By the way, in these times of "crisis", do not hesitate to take another kind of job, even if it's totally different as yours.
That will change your mind, you will be more satisfied of yourself. Even if it's working in a shop, farming, helping elderly people, etc....

I've myself made jobs that were not at all in the sector in which I got my diploma.
I even worked in a tunnel during 3 years. I met nice people there and I finished my mandate.
Good money is nice, but most important, it's to work with nice people.

If my colleagues would have been assholes, I'd have left the job at the end of the day.

[Roubignol]

Excellent video made by a female professor, explaining how difficult it is for men to know if they are violented by their female partner.

Female Batterers: Domestic Violence Against Men

[Sir Honkers]

Originally Posted by xyzde69

Excellent video made by a female professor, explaining how difficult it is for men to know if they are violented by their female partner.

Female Batterers: Domestic Violence Against Men

You mean it vaildates your distorted view of reality

Originally Posted by xyzde69

Do not forget. Domestic violence against men exists too.

In UK, 25% of domestic violence are perpetraded against MEN.
In Australia... even more.

Honestly. You do talk a load of shit.

[tamsmith]

Originally Posted by loosegoose

Honestly. You do talk a load of shit.

I'm sorry Loose but there is a heck of a lot of violence in a partnership caused by women / females that does not go reported.

In the last ten years things have changed for the better but I know from fact that the UK police DID and still has never got to dealing with violence against males in a partnership.
( Heterosexual. Same sex is different as they have trained persons for that).

Plus newspapers and media are unable or frightened to report the fact as it could be classed as reversed sexism.

Ten years ago I was involved in voluntary work helping "families in difficulties". Nothing to do with money problems. Mainly relationship problems.

Believe me, it was not all down to male testosterone.

I even had a meeting where a women came with a knife and produced it when her husband started to tell his side of the story.

[rosestone]

Originally Posted by tamsmith

I'm sorry Loose but there is a heck of a lot of violence in a partnership caused by women / females that does not go reported.

Plus newspapers and media are unable or frightened to report the fact as it could be classed as reversed sexism.

Ten years ago I was involved in voluntary work helping "families in difficulties". Nothing to do with money problems. Mainly relationship problems.

Believe me, it was not all down to male testosterone.

I even had a meeting where a women came with a knife and produced it when her husband started to tell his side of the story.

Any discussion about this is coloured by the obvious point that men do far worse things to women than women do to men. Sex slavery, mass violence, rape, genital mutilation, groping on the bus, these are almost exclusively male crimes. But still, two wrongs don't make a right.

I have known some abusive women, but zero abusive men, although that could well be because I deliberately would not associate with that type of guy. My mother occasionally behaved violently towards my father, and my wife has done the same to me.

I have experienced one shocking incident of violence by a female on her boyfriend. A friend of mine's then girlfriend, after having told him she was pregnant (which turned out to be a deliberate lie), picked up a glass ashtray and threw it at my friend's face. If he hadn't put his arm up, it might have killed him. I was present at the time. He had done nothing to provoke this, except tell her that if she was carrying his child, perhaps she shouldn't be going out and getting drunk.

I was somewhat traumatised, but apparently she did this kind of thing routinely, she would punch him and kick him, throw mugs of hot coffee at him etc. Her excuse was "He makes me do it", the epigram of the wife beater since the dawn of time. My friend also told me that last he heard of her, she had broken her new boyfriend's nose. I don't think she was ever reported to the police.