Bringing Porn Into Relationships

[buttsie]

The biggest problem in suggesting anything is the majority of porn / erotica
is made by men and their target audience is single men

Even the erotic still has a harder edge to it
A 2013 review of X-art said they'd started getting harder

You can name the number of high profile female producers on 1 hand
discounting female performers turned director.

A quick google search turned up 4 complete unknowns to me
- might be the type of content your after

http://www.sssh.com/

http://www.frolicme.com/

http://erikalust.com/films/

http://missjackystjames.com/about

source

4 Female Adult Film Producers Talk Porn for Women
Posted: 11/13/2014 6:19 pm EST Updated: 11/13/2014

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nikki-...b_6148252.html

Certainly wont be any worse than the film/scene described below

Take The Voyeur by Tinto Brass - very erotic & sensual but what woman would watch
any film which shows a bride on her wedding day in shock as shes being forcibly raped by a stranger/wedding guest from behind.


Women's erotica is available from a variety of media including websites, books, short stories, films, photography, magazines and audio. The content may cover many aspects of sexuality, from relationships to fetishes; the main idea being to convey sex from a woman’s perspective, or to feature female sexual fantasies.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women%27s_erotica

[Huppeli]

I have a very similar situation. Almost ten years ago my girlfriend through therapy etc remembered being sexually abused when she was a child, of which one result was that she became disgusted by porn. She saw the women in it oppressed, it set off her memories from the abuse and therefore porn was off the table for us to enjoy together. For a time she demanded that I should not watch it either, but thawed a bit along the years.

Now she has achieved the point where she asked me some days ago if I could review some porn for her to watch. I was, of course, excited and happy for her (and myself, as I'd really like for us to enjoy erotica together). As a reference film she gave me Candida Royalle's The Gift, which we bought years ago but haven't really watched. The porn she now wants should include romantic foreplay, after-sex hugging and kissing and the woman should look like she really enjoys it and doesn't fake it. A story is preferred, but I think not necessary. The porn can be hardcore, but it should not be too explicit, she wants the big picture and tasteful angles, not to watch close up pussies frothing love juice being pounded by fire hydrant cocks. So 90 % of all porn is now off the list.

The woman should also be normal looking, which boils down to looking adult and not skinny. There goes at least another 20 % out the window. Rough sex was right out, and she mentioned throat fucking especially. First I thought that demand odd, but now I've reviewed some movies I've been able to download and some do contain quite rough fellatio, even though they were made by female directors and supposed to be couple friendly. Therefore I think she may have found some porn by herself, but did not like what she saw. Well, I'll edit them out from these I now have, as they are otherwise good. But you can imagine the giant haystack that stands in front of me right now.

The problem only gets bigger, as tasteful couples porn is not easy to find free. We're not wealthy, and buying DVD's "blind" is not an option. I don't want to spend money on a film that proves to be unacceptable. We have three films by Candida Royalle on DVD, but The Gift is the only one she has liked so far.

I'll take a look of the films already mentioned in this thread, but films for couples by e. g. Candida Royalle, Erika Lust, Anna Span, Tristan Taormino and Petra Joy are next to impossible to find online without having a purse full of gold coins, which I don't. Any other suggestions?

[old alal]

Huppeli, Mrs alal likes the scenes by EroticaX Couples Porn. It is a pay site so I am not a member and I am not really sure where I got them from but we have a few scenes all with little or no dialog, the couples are very hot, and the sex looks more like actual lovemaking father than porn. No daft angles or positions etc.

I hope I am allowed to refer to another (pay) site in this reply (just trying to help another member. It is not on the banned list. If this is not allowed, then mods please remove. Sorry.

[Monkeywench]

I tried to introduce porn into my relationship a while ago. We gave it a go but my wife really wasn't into it.

I don't mind at all because I don't look at porn any more. Not at all. Never. Nope...

[old alal]

Neither do I. In fact I never have, and never would, its disgusting, degrading, time wasting, tiring, interesting, enthralling, exciting, exhilarating, all consuming, ....sorry got to go and look at another thread just now.

[Schwenck]

I've seen some Frolic Me films and thought they were good and well presented.
My wife did watch some porn films with me, but she decided they didn't do very much for her, so stopped. The one she did find appealing was set on an oil rig: a lady manager ends a strike by shagging the three ringleaders. I think she might be happier with erotic fiction that films.

[vo1v0d]

Try it when she is drunk. That gives her a cop-out clause if she enjoys it as in would not have watched that if I was sober.

[Adam West]

Originally Posted by vo1v0d

Try it when she is drunk. That gives her a cop-out clause if she enjoys it as in would not have watched that if I was sober.

I did try that once several years ago with my ex. I put on some of those great Swedish Erotica vignettes on VHS (high technology of the time).

She thought they were still disgusting, but she did understand why I loved her to wear RHT nylons. She did wear them for me, but only in the bedroom. Never out in public like I wanted her to. She doesn't wear them for her second husband, which I found amusing.

I've never tried to get any other woman in my life to try porn. I keep it to myself.

[BaronWVS]

In all of my relationships with women I am always out and open with my love for porn, and explain that it's something I'm not going to change for them anymore than I would ask them to change to suit me. I don't pressure them, but I also tell them to let me know if they want to check some out with me. I'm lucky to be a Vintage guy, because I can usually find a porn star that has a body like theirs, and they take right to it. "Oh, she has a body like mine... and she's sexy as hell!"

[stiv837]

In the early days of our relationship my wife and I would rent VHS. porn videos almost every weekend. We usually watched them before having sex . Occasionally I would watch them as she was sucking me , she would do the same while I ate her . Watching them always put us in the mood no matter how tired we were. She was into interracial porn and two guys and one girl , while my tastes ran more to amateur porn. I'm not sure why we got away from watching porn to enhance our sex life , at this point we have a sexless marriage.