Why are you the way you are ?

[TCO95]

Hi, poked a little fun my first visit here. That's just me.

I'm always a little jealous when people can talk about their dads as my father passed away from cancer when I was very young so I never really knew the man. From all accounts he could be tough but fair. My formative years were shaped by a self centered mother and five carbon copy older sisters. No one around to teach me the 'guy' stuff.

When mom did remarry it was to a fat, illiterate, jackass. Never had any respect for the bozo. He'd never accomplished anything in his life and took great pleasure in demeaning anyone who did. Anytime I did something I thought was noteworthy it was greeted with "he thinks he's a big shot now", "it'll go straight to his head" and "now he thinks he's better than everyone else" or some other rubbish. I stopped telling them anything.

I spent as much time out of the house as I could. Mostly sports. I even became a good enough baseball player to get drafted by the Montreal Expos. However, one day on the way to practice I got hit by a car. After that there was no more sports for a long time. So I used the money I got in the insurance settlement to go to college. You should have heard the crap they laid on me for spending the money on schooling instead of buying the bozo a new car.

Anyway, oddly enough I feel better for sharing this with a forum of porno loving perverts.

Thanks.

[DTravel]

Originally Posted by GreenSkull

Ah the universe fair point

But what if nobody else likes the result either

Then they can give me more positive experiences as well!

[Mal Hombre]

Originally Posted by TCO95

Anyway, oddly enough I feel better for sharing this with a forum of porno loving perverts.

Thanks.

I like to think of myself more as a degenerate smutmonkey

[dbailey]

I guess some of us were brought up by a generation who knew how to keep their place.

My Mum and Dad were a strong couple but very working class. Both voted labour without a thought. There was always 'them' and 'us'. Everyone we knew were trades people. I never met professionals unless I was having new spectacles made or getting my tonsils removed.

My dad did pretty much two jobs to keep money coming in to feed two growing sons and I was encouraged to stay on at school after 16yo to complete and education. I went to an inner city state comp. I was the first person ever in my family to go to college, before me they all had completed education at night school on apprenticeships.

I have done OK, but I was never tought this self belief that the nobs get at posh school that turns them into leaders even if they know bugger all and are complete a-holes to people arround them.

And yet what I am is me, my fault, failing is OK as long as you learn so that next time you dont fail.

The best way to ride a punch is not to stick your chin in the way, time after time.

So why am I not happy to be what I am and where I am, just like Mum and Dad were?

[rc_riddle]

I always think the worst of people, sometimes I am pleasantly surprised, but I am never disappointed.

[MaxJoker]

Originally Posted by brianwp

I really hate to blame anyone in particular, because I believe we're all responsible for our own destinies. But, that being said, my heart wants to say otherwise. I was a late addition to the family, my mother was around 40 when she had me, and my brothers were 20 years older than me. So I was the baby, and by then my parents were reasonably prosperous, so my mother spoiled me. And that wasn't really a good thing. I felt privileged, and that's not good, either. I wasn't prepared for the harsh realities of life, I guess I'm still not. I have way too much self-pity, whereas a fighting spirit would do a lot better, especially in these times. Of course, in my own defence...these are extremely hard times. I've tried to work and play by all the rules, but it seems like the bottom has slipped from under me, regardless. Truthfully, I don't know how much longer I can go on like this.

Hey i've seen some of your posts Brian , i`d say your fighting spirits up their with the best of them

I get what you mean though and it's true we are all responsible for our destiny's , but surely only up to a point. Since the foundations that help us spearhead those destiny's can be made or broken by the upbringing we each experienced

Such as if we`re made to feel confident and secure while growing up then chances are we'll be all the more able to push ourselves forward , to strive for our wants and be brave. Because as far as i`m concerned anybody who manages to leave their bed each morning and venture out into life is bloody brave . Certainly now in this day and age . Telling you is it me or are we currently living through the worst social upheavals ever recorded ?. We are threatened from every side from every corner with either physical attacks , mental insults , financial ruin or further reductions of what freedoms we`re still meant to have . Although if anybody finds my freedom please do pass it on as i seemed to have lost it some time ago .

But getting back to the topic

Funny to think we're of a similar upbringing structure Brian , mind you i was never spoiled. Unlike dear Bro and Sis . No more forgotten about until someone wanted to either unburden their troubles , because as we know what better person to explain how horrible your life is than an impressionable seven year old ?.
Or they'd want ,for example , to chase me round the room looking to beat me with cushions .

Look might not sound much but if you`re little and a massive giant whacks you about with a cushion you won't find yourself laughing that loudly.

Actually that's no doubt where my slightly more violent than needed nature must have been nurtured , as i know for a fact i`m too on edge and looking at perceived slights to right or looking to step in and defend somebody else from their own slight.

Still my only real role models when i was little were comic book characters so it's not surprising i tend to step in to problems that really aren't my concern .

Hell probably all to do with that death wish thing that's always quietly buzzing in the back of my head .

Also it must be where i developed my warped humour , as if i hadn't found someway to make myself look on the bright side i`d have probably killed my Dad , Bro and Sis in their sleep before i was age ten


Best of luck with your current struggles , remember where there's life there's hope and where's there's friendship you're never alone even when by yourself.

Especially when you`re logged on here

[MaxJoker]

Originally Posted by mvasilj

Great thread idea GS
Umm, I thought about this for a whole 5 seconds and can truly blame my parents, teachers, religious leaders and friends for the way I am and turned out. I went and did exactly what they didn't want me to do
Had they all told me too go and and do the wrong things, I'm sure I'd be doing the right things. I just don't like being told what to do, never have and never will.

Don't think many of us like being told what to do , only unlike you they're not so free in letting the other person know .

Do i need to mention what happened the last time all us Mods went on our annual picnic

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I mean come on Mva even you must admit you overreacted ? ,all that Forrest ranger said was " Please don't keep spitting your chew`n tobacco on the leafs "

[MaxJoker]

Originally Posted by TCO95

Anyway, oddly enough I feel better for sharing this with a forum of porno loving perverts.

Thanks.

Thank you to

Have to admit the reason for this thread was also partly due to Brother Xexemedes and his open contributions on my former social group , erm a group which is now gone so if you failed to read his stuff then you buggers missed a lot !

I mean if we want to have a little moan about why we're the way we are and why we think that is then why not

Let's be honest we weren't bloody born this way , we're an amalgam of our collective upbringings and the people we've met and still meet.

Including those who we've met on this grand forum da'porno art

Anyway let's not forget that thanks to threads like this we GD contributors can always claim not to be here for the naked pictures , merely the intelligent discourse [IMG]http://i46.*******.com/260wwmr.gif[/IMG]

[Estreeter]

Originally Posted by GreenSkull

Do i need to mention what happened the last time all us Mods went on our annual picnic

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I mean come on Mva even you must admit you overreacted ? ,all that Forrest ranger said was " Please don't keep spitting your chew`n tobacco on the leafs "
:

How did you expect me too react, the Super Mods said they'd bring all the food and beer, just like you'd expect at any corporate function, much too my surprise when we had too share that sandwich and our one and only can of beer was spilled, I don't think it was an overreaction at all

[TCO95]

I read this quote and thought it was so appropriate for this thread.

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-bitch."
-- Rich Jeni

For anyone who doesn't know, Richard Jeni is a New York based comic.