Fancying people it can never ever happen with - Page 3

**Wendigo** · July 12th, 2009, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by DTravel

Isn't fancying people it will never happen with the whole point of this forum?

Isn't it the whole point of life? When you stop fancying people you know you are getting too old.
Sue Perkins is well up there though as she reminds me of someone I really liked many years ago.

**risen** · July 13th, 2009, 10:47 PM

This subject is something i have never got to terms with and has been troubling me for almost all my adult life.

Despite my stable long term relationship, there is a woman I met through my line of work who would not let me within ten feet of her, although kind and friendly when we meet.

I know she just thinks I am an old perv but the knowledge that I can never have any sort of affair with her and will go to my grave without ever holding her close and giving her a good seeing to is a source of constant trouble to my conscious mind and often intrudes into my dreams. Good job I don't talk in my sleep eh?

She isn't the first I have had this problem with, but at my age she is probably the last. She is 31, and I am 56 by the way.

Its taken weeks to build up to this confession and the missus is sleeping across the hall and I am about to join her. The Lord help me if she ever worked out that some of our passionate moments occur after I have woken from a dream featuring the woman of my secret desires!

**tamsmith** · July 13th, 2009, 11:27 PM

During my public working life there were several women I would have and could have had a few nights with. I really did fancy them. Two of them still stay locally and despite the years they still look like hotty totty. One got married in her late 30's the other was dumped by a prat in her mid 20's, still single and still stunning. Drink on nights out made them look even better.

However, I decided early on in my life that Mrs Smith was the one so I have steered clear of temptation. Which is why I am a member here!!!

As my mum said "you can look for free but touching will cost".

**blondifan** · July 16th, 2009, 03:36 AM

I think the whole notion of 'you can never have them', only makes you want them more.
I have had two personal 'crushes' for the longest time.
The first since the age of fiveteen, and like an idiot inexperienced schoolboy I turned away her advances only to find shortly after that I desire her more than other woman on the planet.
The second has only been for a decade or so.
She was a singer in a band I was in, in the eighties. Both were overtly sexual females, but the second showed no interest in me.
I first realised I had a crush on the singer when in a dream I was sitting on a bed with her, both fully clothed but beginning to be intimate, when my then current girlfriend appeared in the doorway and said "C'mon, it's time to go". Think my reply was "I'm good!"

Both my crushes are big thighed, slim, healthy country girls

The singer used to have sex aid (toy) parties, and was the first and only person I've known who'll admit to seeing 'Animal Farm'. She resembles Gina Davis in 'Thelma and Louise'.

I'm sure both know of my desire for them, although not of each other.
Ironically I'd really only like to spend a night or maybe a weekend with each of them, then go our seperate ways.
Although I'm not really sure I could leave it as such.

NirvanaBoy · July 16th, 2009, 10:31 AM

I met a girl in high school and we became good close friends. Right out of the gate I had a thing for her, but she only wanted to be friends back then. The years went on, we granduated, and my attachment to her grew into full blown love. She dated other guys, and always came crying to me when it inevitably wouldn't work out. Time after time I'd open up and tell her that I loved her and she shouldn't just count me out. Each time she said she really did like me, but didn't want to wind up hurting me, and it always killed me that I was constantly passed over. Then one day she was single again. Once again, I told her how I felt. Once again, she said the same old thing. But then something different happened. Instead of dating again, she stayed single. We spoke to each other constantly, and she slowly started showing signs of interest. But by this point, I was hesitant, scared even. The thought of finally being with her was exciting, but also seemed too good to be true, as this wasn't the first time we'd come so close. One day she said that she was really starting to see a chance between me and her, but at this point I was beginning to feel like I was being jerked around. I voiced my concerns to her and basically said, "Look you've known how I've felt about you for years now and you always leave me hanging in suspense, then turn around and date/screw around with someone else. I can't go through this anymore, I'm at my wits end. Either you love me or you don't. It doesn't have to be drawn out like this." She did her usual teasing bit and said she couldn't answer right away, but that the answer she was leaning toward might make me very happy. Then I never heard from her again for a while. She wouldn't answer my emails or return my calls. I was crushed to pieces, to say the least. Absolutely, devastatingly heart broken. I did everything I could to move on and forget about her, and I did eventually. Then one day after my grandfather died last year, she suddenly reappeared. I fought it at first, but I couldn't help it and found myself right back to square one with her. We talked to each other constantly again and she said all the right things. I was absolutely smitten again, but once again I was being played for a fool. The entire time she was talking to me and saying all the right things and giving all the right hints, she was talking to another one of my friends in exactly the same manner. On top of that indignity, she was also dating someone who was away in the Marines. I was devasted, broken hearted. I never spoke to her again, and when my friend found out about her Marine boyfriend, he did exactly the same thing. There was one good thing that came out of it all, though. It lead me to do some serious soul-searching. I've since starting making some changes in my life and though right now things are still pretty tough, I'm confident I'll be able to pull through and that one day my life will be even better than it was before. Even though she turned out to be a terrible friend to me, I still value the experience because it taught me to always be on alert for bullshit.

**crazybikerme** · July 16th, 2009, 09:55 PM

Lia 19 is on 'This Flight Tonight' to reach England and take advantage of poor Hilts...............

...of course the boy will do all he can to preserve his honour.......

purplecloud · October 19th, 2009, 08:27 PM

I've always thought of it being unlikely rather than impossible. If your gonna dream then dream big.

MaxJoker · May 13th, 2012, 02:54 PM

Madonna

It`s just a shame she died ten years ago

What`s worse is nobody had the nerve to tell her

**vo1v0d** · August 12th, 2017, 05:26 AM

I am shocked by the lack of imagination and ambition here. I would chose Holly Willoughby and Fearne Cotton as a double. Imagine. Patent leather stilletos with five inch heels, sheer black stockings with no seams, thong with a pair of scissors for quick removal, suspender belt, basque with cups that turn inside out to act as shelves for the boobs, black ribbon to tie the hair back out of the way.......and I would dress both of the girls in hot lingerie as well.

July 16th, 2009, 03:36 AM	#24
blondifan Vintage Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 4,406 Thanks: 55,003 Thanked 60,213 Times in 4,401 Posts	Forbidden fruit I think the whole notion of 'you can never have them', only makes you want them more. I have had two personal 'crushes' for the longest time. The first since the age of fiveteen, and like an idiot inexperienced schoolboy I turned away her advances only to find shortly after that I desire her more than other woman on the planet. The second has only been for a decade or so. She was a singer in a band I was in, in the eighties. Both were overtly sexual females, but the second showed no interest in me. I first realised I had a crush on the singer when in a dream I was sitting on a bed with her, both fully clothed but beginning to be intimate, when my then current girlfriend appeared in the doorway and said "C'mon, it's time to go". Think my reply was "I'm good!" Both my crushes are big thighed, slim, healthy country girls The singer used to have sex aid (toy) parties, and was the first and only person I've known who'll admit to seeing 'Animal Farm'. She resembles Gina Davis in 'Thelma and Louise'. I'm sure both know of my desire for them, although not of each other. Ironically I'd really only like to spend a night or maybe a weekend with each of them, then go our seperate ways. Although I'm not really sure I could leave it as such.

July 16th, 2009, 09:55 PM	#26
crazybikerme Vintage Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,246 Thanks: 0 Thanked 30,578 Times in 2,344 Posts	This thread is so wrong.............. Lia 19 is on 'This Flight Tonight' to reach England and take advantage of poor Hilts............... ...of course the boy will do all he can to preserve his honour.......

May 13th, 2012, 02:54 PM	#28
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July 13th, 2009, 10:47 PM	#22
risen Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Stuck in the middle Posts: 1,100 Thanks: 68,798 Thanked 15,539 Times in 1,092 Posts	This subject is something i have never got to terms with and has been troubling me for almost all my adult life. Despite my stable long term relationship, there is a woman I met through my line of work who would not let me within ten feet of her, although kind and friendly when we meet. I know she just thinks I am an old perv but the knowledge that I can never have any sort of affair with her and will go to my grave without ever holding her close and giving her a good seeing to is a source of constant trouble to my conscious mind and often intrudes into my dreams. Good job I don't talk in my sleep eh? She isn't the first I have had this problem with, but at my age she is probably the last. She is 31, and I am 56 by the way. Its taken weeks to build up to this confession and the missus is sleeping across the hall and I am about to join her. The Lord help me if she ever worked out that some of our passionate moments occur after I have woken from a dream featuring the woman of my secret desires!

July 13th, 2009, 11:27 PM	#23
tamsmith Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Coming close to the Slippery Slope. Posts: 7,800 Thanks: 77,915 Thanked 280,434 Times in 9,078 Posts	During my public working life there were several women I would have and could have had a few nights with. I really did fancy them. Two of them still stay locally and despite the years they still look like hotty totty. One got married in her late 30's the other was dumped by a prat in her mid 20's, still single and still stunning. Drink on nights out made them look even better. However, I decided early on in my life that Mrs Smith was the one so I have steered clear of temptation. Which is why I am a member here!!! As my mum said "you can look for free but touching will cost".

July 16th, 2009, 10:31 AM	#25
NirvanaBoy Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 107 Thanks: 1,022 Thanked 3,953 Times in 106 Posts	I met a girl in high school and we became good close friends. Right out of the gate I had a thing for her, but she only wanted to be friends back then. The years went on, we granduated, and my attachment to her grew into full blown love. She dated other guys, and always came crying to me when it inevitably wouldn't work out. Time after time I'd open up and tell her that I loved her and she shouldn't just count me out. Each time she said she really did like me, but didn't want to wind up hurting me, and it always killed me that I was constantly passed over. Then one day she was single again. Once again, I told her how I felt. Once again, she said the same old thing. But then something different happened. Instead of dating again, she stayed single. We spoke to each other constantly, and she slowly started showing signs of interest. But by this point, I was hesitant, scared even. The thought of finally being with her was exciting, but also seemed too good to be true, as this wasn't the first time we'd come so close. One day she said that she was really starting to see a chance between me and her, but at this point I was beginning to feel like I was being jerked around. I voiced my concerns to her and basically said, "Look you've known how I've felt about you for years now and you always leave me hanging in suspense, then turn around and date/screw around with someone else. I can't go through this anymore, I'm at my wits end. Either you love me or you don't. It doesn't have to be drawn out like this." She did her usual teasing bit and said she couldn't answer right away, but that the answer she was leaning toward might make me very happy. Then I never heard from her again for a while. She wouldn't answer my emails or return my calls. I was crushed to pieces, to say the least. Absolutely, devastatingly heart broken. I did everything I could to move on and forget about her, and I did eventually. Then one day after my grandfather died last year, she suddenly reappeared. I fought it at first, but I couldn't help it and found myself right back to square one with her. We talked to each other constantly again and she said all the right things. I was absolutely smitten again, but once again I was being played for a fool. The entire time she was talking to me and saying all the right things and giving all the right hints, she was talking to another one of my friends in exactly the same manner. On top of that indignity, she was also dating someone who was away in the Marines. I was devasted, broken hearted. I never spoke to her again, and when my friend found out about her Marine boyfriend, he did exactly the same thing. There was one good thing that came out of it all, though. It lead me to do some serious soul-searching. I've since starting making some changes in my life and though right now things are still pretty tough, I'm confident I'll be able to pull through and that one day my life will be even better than it was before. Even though she turned out to be a terrible friend to me, I still value the experience because it taught me to always be on alert for bullshit.

October 19th, 2009, 08:27 PM	#27
purplecloud Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 41 Thanks: 6,916 Thanked 239 Times in 38 Posts	I've always thought of it being unlikely rather than impossible. If your gonna dream then dream big.

August 12th, 2017, 05:26 AM	#29
vo1v0d Hideous By Nature Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: sarf eeeest lunden Posts: 8,360 Thanks: 42,773 Thanked 61,590 Times in 7,576 Posts	I am shocked by the lack of imagination and ambition here. I would chose Holly Willoughby and Fearne Cotton as a double. Imagine. Patent leather stilletos with five inch heels, sheer black stockings with no seams, thong with a pair of scissors for quick removal, suspender belt, basque with cups that turn inside out to act as shelves for the boobs, black ribbon to tie the hair back out of the way.......and I would dress both of the girls in hot lingerie as well.