Jealousy

spoonfedmonkey · February 13th, 2013, 07:46 AM

This may sound like a weird post for a porn forum. But I think it fits.

I have a new girlfriend, and I'm very much in love with her.

I just left a bad marriage. 17 years with a woman who was simply strange and cruel. But she is the mother of our son, so I put up with a lot. Too much.

My new girlfriend is spectacular. I find her beautiful, fun, interesting, intelligent, and everything I could want.

She fulfills EVERY sexual desire I have. I'm sexually satisfied for the first time in my life.

Yet...some of her previous sexual experiences bother me. They make me jealous. I have NEVER felt jealousy before. Ever. This is very strange to me.

It's completely ridiculous, on one level: the fact that she fulfills every sexual desire I have MUST mean that she is an open, sexually interested and experienced woman.

But on another level it bothers me in a way I simply cannot explain.

Have any of you experienced this sort of jealousy? I mean, for Jupiter's sake, we're here on a porn forum getting our jollies looking at thousands of pretty young things doing the most whorish acts imaginable, and fantasizing about it and loving it. But we go to bed and want our women to be virgins? I mean, I never wanted a virgin as a girlfriend. Who would? But why should her past sexual experiences bother me? Is this some kind of Darwinian bullshit? Am I just nuts?

I probably am.

SFM

Estreeter · February 13th, 2013, 10:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spoonfedmonkey

This may sound like a weird post

Trust me, It ain't even close too the weirdest

Quote:

Originally Posted by spoonfedmonkey

My new girlfriend is spectacular. I find her beautiful, fun, interesting, intelligent, and everything I could want.

She fulfills EVERY sexual desire I have. I'm sexually satisfied for the first time in my life.

Don't think past that

**9876543210** · February 13th, 2013, 03:40 PM

spoonfedmonkey,

Quote:

Originally Posted by spoonfedmonkey

Have any of you experienced this sort of jealousy? I mean, for Jupiter's sake, we're here on a porn forum getting our jollies looking at thousands of pretty young things doing the most whorish acts imaginable, and fantasizing about it and loving it. But we go to bed and want our women to be virgins? I mean, I never wanted a virgin as a girlfriend. Who would? But why should her past sexual experiences bother me? Is this some kind of Darwinian bullshit? Am I just nuts?

Jealousy isn't something I normally have to deal with either but there have been a couple of times when its raised its ugly head. NEVER with a positive result.

If you're sure that you really like this woman and want to spend some time with her then get some help ASAP. Jealousy can make people do some really stupid things they will regret and make it almost impossible for two people to get back together again.

So, get help immediately if you really like her. Don't know where to tell you to go except some psychiatrist. Good luck.

**Old Jud** · February 13th, 2013, 04:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spoonfedmonkey

This may sound like a weird post for a porn forum. But I think it fits.

I have a new girlfriend, and I'm very much in love with her.

I just left a bad marriage. 17 years with a woman who was simply strange and cruel. But she is the mother of our son, so I put up with a lot. Too much.

My new girlfriend is spectacular. I find her beautiful, fun, interesting, intelligent, and everything I could want.

She fulfills EVERY sexual desire I have. I'm sexually satisfied for the first time in my life.

Yet...some of her previous sexual experiences bother me. They make me jealous. I have NEVER felt jealousy before. Ever. This is very strange to me.

It's completely ridiculous, on one level: the fact that she fulfills every sexual desire I have MUST mean that she is an open, sexually interested and experienced woman.

But on another level it bothers me in a way I simply cannot explain.

Have any of you experienced this sort of jealousy? I mean, for Jupiter's sake, we're here on a porn forum getting our jollies looking at thousands of pretty young things doing the most whorish acts imaginable, and fantasizing about it and loving it. But we go to bed and want our women to be virgins? I mean, I never wanted a virgin as a girlfriend. Who would? But why should her past sexual experiences bother me? Is this some kind of Darwinian bullshit? Am I just nuts?

I probably am.

SFM

Ditch the negative thoughts and think positively old chap.

Are you jealous of her previous partners or envious? Either way you are now in a win win situation, you now have her to yourself.

Think yourself lucky that you have a Woman who fullfils all your sexual desires, not every man can say that.

You also have a sexual past, is she concerned about that? I'm guessing not, neither of you can turn the clock back on your previous sex lives so why worry?

Enjoy your time together, life is far too short to let negative emotions stifle your fun.

MisterMacky · February 13th, 2013, 06:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spoonfedmonkey

My new girlfriend is spectacular. I find her beautiful, fun, interesting, intelligent, and everything I could want.

A woman who is sexy and intelligent.

...

Where would you find such a woman?

**ubu_roi** · February 13th, 2013, 06:48 PM

Hell, I'm resentful that someone played my guitar before I got it. Imagine how I feel about my wife.

(I got them both used)

BigInfidel · February 13th, 2013, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spoonfedmonkey

My new girlfriend is spectacular. I find her beautiful, fun, interesting, intelligent, and everything I could want.

One very seldom finds someone like that so treat her like a precious gem. If she has wonderful tricks you should just enjoy the benefits that her experience can provide.

If your jealously gets in the way then you are not mature enough to have her so either get help or walk away.

**Brecht** · February 13th, 2013, 10:53 PM

Are you jealous because she may be more experienced than you or are you afraid you cannot satisfy an experienced woman like her?

**seany65** · February 13th, 2013, 10:56 PM

spoonfed,

I think you're just worried that you can't match up to her previous lovers.

Whether you can or not may not actually be relavent. What you should try to do is be different to them and also do stuff she likes and, without stressing about it too much, try to be good at what you do for her. Ask her what she wants and remind her that you're not a mindreader.

Have you thought that she may be doing whatever you want because she's not as experienced as you think, but she doesn't want you to know that? Or that she may be worried about not being able to match up to your previous lovers?

**palo5** · February 14th, 2013, 03:18 AM

Not logical to be jealous

Jealous is when someone else has what you think should be yours. So if you have the woman, you can't be jealous

Maybe you should just be resentful

February 13th, 2013, 07:46 AM	#1
spoonfedmonkey Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 186 Thanks: 2,292 Thanked 1,948 Times in 178 Posts	Jealousy This may sound like a weird post for a porn forum. But I think it fits. I have a new girlfriend, and I'm very much in love with her. I just left a bad marriage. 17 years with a woman who was simply strange and cruel. But she is the mother of our son, so I put up with a lot. Too much. My new girlfriend is spectacular. I find her beautiful, fun, interesting, intelligent, and everything I could want. She fulfills EVERY sexual desire I have. I'm sexually satisfied for the first time in my life. Yet...some of her previous sexual experiences bother me. They make me jealous. I have NEVER felt jealousy before. Ever. This is very strange to me. It's completely ridiculous, on one level: the fact that she fulfills every sexual desire I have MUST mean that she is an open, sexually interested and experienced woman. But on another level it bothers me in a way I simply cannot explain. Have any of you experienced this sort of jealousy? I mean, for Jupiter's sake, we're here on a porn forum getting our jollies looking at thousands of pretty young things doing the most whorish acts imaginable, and fantasizing about it and loving it. But we go to bed and want our women to be virgins? I mean, I never wanted a virgin as a girlfriend. Who would? But why should her past sexual experiences bother me? Is this some kind of Darwinian bullshit? Am I just nuts? I probably am. SFM

February 13th, 2013, 06:48 PM	#6
ubu_roi Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Northeastern USA Posts: 3,962 Thanks: 83,135 Thanked 43,794 Times in 3,958 Posts	Hell, I'm resentful that someone played my guitar before I got it. Imagine how I feel about my wife. (I got them both used) __________________ Absinthe makes the heart grow fonder

February 13th, 2013, 10:56 PM	#9
seany65 Vintage Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 3,651 Thanks: 80,415 Thanked 32,730 Times in 3,527 Posts	spoonfed, I think you're just worried that you can't match up to her previous lovers. Whether you can or not may not actually be relavent. What you should try to do is be different to them and also do stuff she likes and, without stressing about it too much, try to be good at what you do for her. Ask her what she wants and remind her that you're not a mindreader. Have you thought that she may be doing whatever you want because she's not as experienced as you think, but she doesn't want you to know that? Or that she may be worried about not being able to match up to your previous lovers? __________________ <-- That's Emer Kenny and I want to be stuck in her front bottom. Quote from electrofreak : I'd rather have questions that can't be answered, than answers that can't be questioned.

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February 13th, 2013, 10:53 PM	#8
Brecht Veteran Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 10,657 Thanks: 180,485 Thanked 188,138 Times in 10,453 Posts	Are you jealous because she may be more experienced than you or are you afraid you cannot satisfy an experienced woman like her?

February 14th, 2013, 03:18 AM	#10
palo5 Former Staff Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 16,579 Thanks: 452,836 Thanked 222,658 Times in 16,567 Posts	Not logical to be jealous Jealous is when someone else has what you think should be yours. So if you have the woman, you can't be jealous Maybe you should just be resentful