Girls You Never Told How You Felt.

[Retrovintro]

Originally Posted by evilcartman

Don't even want to go there. Too painful. Look toward the future.

So complicated, and Im so overwrought with pain on this one. You get this feeling in your bones, right down to the fucking marrow that this was your one real chance of connecting with THE right one for your life. I know it may be hard for some to believe, but I swear its the truth, I could leave my place and her location would pop up in my mind, I'd go there, and there she was. Happened at least 6 times. I have no explanation. The only time I experienced love at first sight , otherwise I would never have believed in that old cliche.

[PJayBr]

I once worked in a hotel with two part-time bar staff. Due to the way the rotas fell I worked with a 60-odd year bloke, and missed out on the female 20-something who did the other nights. The boss went on holiday, so I had to sleep in at the hotel for a week, and so worked with her for a full evening for the first time.

During the night it became clear that she was flirting with me something rotten. Four times that I remember she managed to flash her stocking tops at me, once almost committing an act of indecent exposure! Her conversation lead me to believe that if I closed up the place and dragged her off upstairs to my room, she wouldn't have taken much dragging. I had only been married about a year (still married now, 25 years on), so I decided the safest route was to ring the missus, get her to pop round to ease my tension (so to speak) and to send the lass home and avoid potential divorce.

The biggest problem was that she got on really with my other half, so who knows what mght have happened.

My biggest sexual fantasy (and early morning sheet stiffening moment) since has involved them both giving me a birthday pressie, so to speak.

I fancied her incredibly, still do in fact, but under the circumstances (you know, she'd have ripped my clothes off and had me on the bar floor and wifey might have found out), I just couldn't tell her.

PJayBr

[haroldeye]

Had a girl who I couldn't tell as she worked for me and that sort of thing was not on in those days. When she left she had a boyfriend so again my silence was complete.

I met her a couple of years later on a coach trip to London to see our team play at Wembley. She was engaged and I had a girlfriend, and I jokingly said that it was a huge shame I had never been able to tell her how gorgeous she was.

We agreed to pretend we were together for the weekend. Never did see the match!

[GailFan]

I thought I'd mentioned this before in another thread with a similar topic.

Many years ago someone out of the blue emailed me. I assumed it was a scam and was tempted to ignore it, but I made a sarcastic reply. She turned out to be a very real person and we ended up emailing each other several times a day.

Eventually, I went on holiday to Los Angeles; she lived in San Diego so she came up to spend a day together.

I had never seen what she looked like before, so she send me a picture.

Wow, totally gorgeous, very pretty redhead. I was totally floored by how beautiful she was.

So, we met and had a great day together, going out to lunch then driving around West Hollywood.

Back home, we continued the email friendship. I was pretty attached to her by now, but I didn't say anything. I'm used to women not having any physical attracttion to me.

We lost contact for a while and it got me pretty bummed. For about a year or so, I heard nothing from her.

Then, out of the blue, she dropped me an email. She was living in New York and had a new life now. We continued emailing, but it wasn't with the same frequency. I was pretty much head-over-heels in love with her by now, but didn't have the courage to tell her.

She didn't stay single for too long in New York, and struck up a relationship with a very handsome investment broker.

I took another trip to New York to visit her. It was the last time I saw her, and I'm pretty sure she was making a conscious decision to say goodbye (without actually saying goodbye). After I got home, she described me in her blog as her "penpal", and the emails stopped. They were married pretty soon after that.

I've never met anyone in my life who was as compatible with me as she was. We had so many things in common.

I never had the guts to tell her how I really felt because I knew she didn't reciprocate so doing so would mean I would lose her as a friend. But in the end, that's what happened anyway.

This was 7 years ago. Now I'm a lonely old man and I miss her terribly.

[gordian_knot]

Yes, for me there was one girl who was involved with someone else. He was a total shit to her but she coudn't - or wouldn't - admit he was no good, despite everyone telling her to dump him. I was just a shoulder to cry on and I never told her how I felt because I knew she wasn't interested.

So very long ago. I often have dreams about people in the past, but I've only dreamed about her once that I can remember, while I have regular dreams (non-sexual) about another girl who I had no conscious attraction to, but compatibility and chemistry is a strange thing. I've only been totally comfortable with two girls in my life and she was one. Married though.

[Jake Gittes]

Originally Posted by evilcartman

Don't even want to go there. Too painful. Look toward the future.

There's a lot of truth in this. There was a girl I liked in college, asked her out, and the date never happened. She was a very nice girl, blonde with blue eyes and very spunky. I could literally tell her anything and she wouldn't get freaked out or anything. She has a boyfriend now, and the knowledge that it's not me with her hurts more than words can describe.

In short, I do believe in telling a potential mate how you feel. Sometimes it acts as an "ice-breaker" of sorts for women, a test that they secretly keep to see how much a guy really likes them. It takes a lot of balls for a guy to tell a woman how he feels, but it kind of shows some confidence on our part!

I've had pretty deep and intimate discussions with friends that are women (mind you it was only as a friend), and they are very much open to talking about how they feel. I guess you have to meet the right woman to open up too!

Let's just say that I have learned that if a woman asks you "what are we" that they are secretly saying that they like you! :thumbsup

[Motorboater]

OP is disappointed he didn't tell Tom Brady how he felt about him!

Personally? It was about 10 years ago. I saw her in a dark room...at Spearmint Rhino. She was about 5'8". A fuller body. Wearing a tight fitting black halter top and pants. Long brown hari tied in a bun. High cheekbones. And the best pair of big tits I'd ever seen!

Her name was "Suzana". I loved her, and her boobs, more than life itself!

[hound dog]

That would be approximately 99.99% of every attractive female I ever saw. I never told them I wanted to rip their clothes of and screw their brains out.

[bornhuskerred]

I had a girl I had feelings for when I used to work retail, named Tina. I tried to ask her out, and she sounded interested but then when I got to planning a date she was suddenly "doing her hair, out of the country".
She was a year younger than me, and we seemed to have a lot of the same interests. At the time, I was going to College with a plan of going into Seminary College, and if her and I would have hit it off, I was planning to drop out of going into the Seminary. I talked to a "Spiritual Director", and they had no problem with me dating before going into the Seminary.
Might be TMI, but one time when I was asking a group of friends at a a bite to eat after work what must be wrong with me, a coworker at another table said someone told her "I was going to sew some wild oats with her before I went into the Seminary". I never even had the chance to express myself and tell her the truth about me, let alone even discuss what was going on. I ended up going into Seminary and giving it 2 years. the year after I returned I met my wife thru a friend of my Sister who was going to College, and we've been married 14 years now. My Wife and I have discussed our "lost loves", and I have expressed how with Tina, it's definitely an unanswered prayer that allowed my wife and I to meet.

[vo1v0d]

About a dozen, and judging by what they turned into I am glad I kept my fucking big mouth shut. As for the one that got away, she has doubled her weight in the intervening thirty years and but for the insurmountable obstacles..........I still would.