What annoys you the most ? - Page 1262

**Dr Pepper** · June 12th, 2018, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by bloke57

I dream of more fitting punishments. Imagine if he arrived home one day to find his house absolutely jam-packed with ciggie butts and old plastic bottles - plus a note saying "I think you lost these"

Oh for the gift of telekinesis!

Or better still-a signature required, courier delivered, gift wrapped parcel containing said items. with a note reading "these fell out of your vehicle over the past week/month...etc and knowing you'd miss them we are returning them. Yours sincerely, Joe Public"

Think of the fun he'll have opening it....

**rosestone** · June 12th, 2018, 08:07 AM

With apologies to TM because this is another eye-roll at lady behaviour! I just get irritated at unreasonableness, from either gender.

Last evening one of my wife's friends comes over unannounced for a whinge about her boyfriend, so I'm banished to the next room, where unfortunately, I can still hear every word. So wife's friend rants about how she goes out of her way to look good for him (although she's gained about 30lbs since they got together, and never does any exercise that I'm aware of), that she and women in general are so self-sacrificing that they never give a single thought to their own sexual pleasure, only their boyfriends (I don't know, but highly unlikely given the look on her boyfriend's face most of the time), and that she does everything around the house and he never lifts a finger to help, even though every time I've been forced to go round there, it's him who does the cooking and clearing away, while she sits and yaks. Then she says he never takes her anywhere and she always pays for everything, even though I know for a fact he paid for them both when they went on a 2 week holiday only two months ago.

Where do they get this stuff from? And why do their friends 'enable' this type of thing by never calling BS? (and no, I'm not going to ask my wife, I'm not daft

). It's only when they're in a relationship it seems to me, otherwise women are generally much more pleasant than men.

**Roubignol** · June 12th, 2018, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by rosestone

With apologies to TM because this is another eye-roll at lady behaviour! I just get irritated at unreasonableness, from either gender.
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It's only when they're in a relationship it seems to me, otherwise women are generally much more pleasant than men.

You get all my compassion.
Stay brave.
We are not that far to reach the goal.

**bloke57** · June 12th, 2018, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by rosestone

Last evening one of my wife's friends comes over unannounced for a whinge about her boyfriend...sits and yaks.

But that is it in a nutshell. They sit and yak and moan - but do they ever do anything about it?

No!

This behaviour is an outlet for emotion, not a plan of action - and illustrates the different way in which men and women think. They are getting it out of their system.

**rosestone** · June 12th, 2018, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by bloke57

This behaviour is an outlet for emotion, not a plan of action - and illustrates the different way in which men and women think. They are getting it out of their system.

Yeah, you're absolutely right, but it really rubs me up the wrong way, because it's unjust. I don't really know her boyfriend, but I can see well enough she is worried he is going to break up with her, so she is preparing her 'blame statement', rather than acknowledging any responsibility - she said something like 'All men just want a 22 year old' (she's around 30, I guess), as if to say she was the perfect girlfriend, and he is just a standard male-pig who refuses to acknowledge it because of male-piggishness. And I just want to stand up and yell through the wall, 'That isn't it at all, just BE NICE to him. That's all he wants'.

(I should also point out that my wife's friend gave me as an example of what a man should be like, and my wife agreed, so I shouldn't rag on her too bad

)

I know you're right, but it always strikes me as strange that women are more empathetic etc, and yet they have this curious blind-spot about themselves and their own behaviour and how it affects their other half.

**bloke57** · June 12th, 2018, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by rosestone

I know you're right, but it always strikes me as strange that women are more empathetic etc...

Even there you are accepting a much-pedalled stereotype.

There is no evidence that women are more empathetic than men. We all know that men feel things deeply and treasure friendships just as much. Men just don't show it so readily - and neither are they expected to.

**rosestone** · June 12th, 2018, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by bloke57

Even there you are accepting a much-pedalled stereotype.

There is no evidence that women are more empathetic than men. We all know that men feel things deeply and treasure friendships just as much. Men just don't show it so readily - and neither are they expected to.

I read once in a psychology book (by a female therapist) what actually happens when a woman asks (insists) her male partner to "tell her how he really feels", and the author stated that much to her chagrin (and fair play to her for acknowledging it), the women were almost all uniformly outraged when their partner gave them what they claimed they wanted so fervently, and described his actual feelings ("I'm not feeling entirely fulfilled in this relationship....", "it upsets me when you...").

She said almost exactly what you said - that men feel things just as keenly, and that women need to be more sympathetic of it (the analogy she used was that emotions for men are like sexual arousal for women - you can't just go charging in without any foreplay - but this is exactly what most women do).

**cuzzyman927** · June 12th, 2018, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by rosestone

I read once in a psychology book (by a female therapist) what actually happens when a woman asks (insists) her male partner to "tell her how he really feels", and the author stated that much to her chagrin (and fair play to her for acknowledging it), the women were almost all uniformly outraged when their partner gave them what they claimed they wanted so fervently, and described his actual feelings ("I'm not feeling entirely fulfilled in this relationship....", "it upsets me when you...").

She said almost exactly what you said - that men feel things just as keenly, and that women need to be more sympathetic of it (the analogy she used was that emotions for men are like sexual arousal for women - you can't just go charging in without any foreplay - but this is exactly what most women do).

I don't think it needs to be read out of any book.

Its an unwritten fact that most women crave positive compliments and reassurances -- I like your hair; that's a nice dress; I like that perfume; what a great supper that was -- But they can't handle and come apart ar the seems at any negativity. I believe that they would much rather hear a positive lie than a negative truth.

While guys are less sensitive, less insecure, or in need of compliments, it might be nice occasionally to hear a kind word come out of a woman's mouth for their man, but most women are slow, absent or incapable of reciprocating.

**Wendigo** · June 12th, 2018, 05:55 PM

Right now a brainless, cloth-eared, tight fisted, thick as pighshit Geordie twat .... ' nuff said.

Wanker

**Reclaimedwg** · June 12th, 2018, 10:02 PM

My neighbor who lives one house down and across likes to leave her 2 dogs outside on the 2nd floor balcony to bark all day and many times at night until 4 am - not sure if she is home or not during those times.

We and other neighbors have talked to her nicely about it and each time she just says I am sorry. I apologize. But nothing ever changes.

I understand the relationship between a human and their beloved pets but it's getting close to the fact that we are left no choice but to call the city's animal control.

They will either take her dogs away for a while and fine her or take her dogs away permanently.

I also want to be neighborly and not start a feud or conflict with the neighbors - we all have to live here.

I don't know if this lady has a screw loose or not.

But I had dogs, first as soon as they start barking outside, regardless of the day or night, I will immediately worry if my dogs are disturbing my neighbors.

It's called common sense and being considerate toward your fellow human being.

Also I don't know if she is on drugs or on alcohol or medication or what? But I am certain that there has been times when she was actually home between the hours of 10 pm and 4 am and her dogs are on the balcony barking at anything which is usually nothing. She's home and how does she not hear them? We never ever hear her go outside to the balcony to tell them to shut up or to bring them back into her house.

She's not an old lady. Maybe 30 at the most. She is also not a young one like 18-20 who still doesn't know right from wrong or has no social skills.

We have tried to call the police but apparently the city ordnance here regarding barking dogs, the police does not get involved. We have to call animal control and before animal control can act, they also need recording (several of them) with time stamp of the dogs barking continuously for 15 minutes.

These dogs don't bark continuously. They bark at something they think they seen or hear or smell then they stop. Then they start back up again. It's not a regular pattern and it doesn't happen at the same time of the day or night but they do bark and when they do so at night, it's enough to wake you up from your sleep.

Finally, I also question during the day it gets up to close to 100 degrees now, then you factor in the humidity and the lack of wind and breeze, it feels even hotter than that, and those dogs are outside on the balcony, there is no dog house or anything that I can see from our 2nd floor windows so therefore there is no shading, plus I don't think I ever seen a dish with food and water, doesn't that constitute some type of animal abuse and neglect?

Even at night here at midnight during this time of the year, it can still feel like 90 degrees outside.

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June 12th, 2018, 08:07 AM	#12612
rosestone Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2013 Posts: 2,256 Thanks: 79,772 Thanked 37,954 Times in 2,261 Posts	With apologies to TM because this is another eye-roll at lady behaviour! I just get irritated at unreasonableness, from either gender. Last evening one of my wife's friends comes over unannounced for a whinge about her boyfriend, so I'm banished to the next room, where unfortunately, I can still hear every word. So wife's friend rants about how she goes out of her way to look good for him (although she's gained about 30lbs since they got together, and never does any exercise that I'm aware of), that she and women in general are so self-sacrificing that they never give a single thought to their own sexual pleasure, only their boyfriends (I don't know, but highly unlikely given the look on her boyfriend's face most of the time), and that she does everything around the house and he never lifts a finger to help, even though every time I've been forced to go round there, it's him who does the cooking and clearing away, while she sits and yaks. Then she says he never takes her anywhere and she always pays for everything, even though I know for a fact he paid for them both when they went on a 2 week holiday only two months ago. Where do they get this stuff from? And why do their friends 'enable' this type of thing by never calling BS? (and no, I'm not going to ask my wife, I'm not daft ). It's only when they're in a relationship it seems to me, otherwise women are generally much more pleasant than men.

June 12th, 2018, 10:02 PM	#12620
Reclaimedwg Vintage Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 3,414 Thanks: 7,709 Thanked 26,946 Times in 3,089 Posts	My neighbor who lives one house down and across likes to leave her 2 dogs outside on the 2nd floor balcony to bark all day and many times at night until 4 am - not sure if she is home or not during those times. We and other neighbors have talked to her nicely about it and each time she just says I am sorry. I apologize. But nothing ever changes. I understand the relationship between a human and their beloved pets but it's getting close to the fact that we are left no choice but to call the city's animal control. They will either take her dogs away for a while and fine her or take her dogs away permanently. I also want to be neighborly and not start a feud or conflict with the neighbors - we all have to live here. I don't know if this lady has a screw loose or not. But I had dogs, first as soon as they start barking outside, regardless of the day or night, I will immediately worry if my dogs are disturbing my neighbors. It's called common sense and being considerate toward your fellow human being. Also I don't know if she is on drugs or on alcohol or medication or what? But I am certain that there has been times when she was actually home between the hours of 10 pm and 4 am and her dogs are on the balcony barking at anything which is usually nothing. She's home and how does she not hear them? We never ever hear her go outside to the balcony to tell them to shut up or to bring them back into her house. She's not an old lady. Maybe 30 at the most. She is also not a young one like 18-20 who still doesn't know right from wrong or has no social skills. We have tried to call the police but apparently the city ordnance here regarding barking dogs, the police does not get involved. We have to call animal control and before animal control can act, they also need recording (several of them) with time stamp of the dogs barking continuously for 15 minutes. These dogs don't bark continuously. They bark at something they think they seen or hear or smell then they stop. Then they start back up again. It's not a regular pattern and it doesn't happen at the same time of the day or night but they do bark and when they do so at night, it's enough to wake you up from your sleep. Finally, I also question during the day it gets up to close to 100 degrees now, then you factor in the humidity and the lack of wind and breeze, it feels even hotter than that, and those dogs are outside on the balcony, there is no dog house or anything that I can see from our 2nd floor windows so therefore there is no shading, plus I don't think I ever seen a dish with food and water, doesn't that constitute some type of animal abuse and neglect? Even at night here at midnight during this time of the year, it can still feel like 90 degrees outside.