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Originally Posted by rosestone
I was going to say that my wife is sometimes difficult to deal with, but she’s not just difficult. She’s impossible.
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Originally Posted by rosestone
A quick example: she will attack me for ‘ignoring’ her, or on one occasion recently, for working while she was watching cute animal clickbait on youtube (don’t ask me how this is a crime, but apparently it is). And I don’t just mean that she gets irritated, I mean she launches a full on assault, and she will never, and I mean never, accept any responsibility for any wrongdoing. But she will expect, nay demand, that I engage with her in endless roundtable discussions about my 'misdeeds', which rather than helping just encourages her to go further next time.
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Uggggh like existence can't be stressful enough. Nobody should have to put up with this treading on eggshells bollocks
"He typed , having done it himself more often than not simply for an illusory quiet moment"
Sounds like things are beyond rough for you
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Originally Posted by rosestone
I never really know what to do. I’ve noticed that a lot of guys on here are married or in long-term relationships, and I’m still young-ish,
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Heeeeey we`re all still youngish on here
Stones
Barring
Greenman of course.
Who can still remember when the Internet was all fields
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Originally Posted by rosestone
Are you able to work through your problems calmly?
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To work problems out calmly both parties have to be at least semi rational.
So you`re on a hiding to nothing already there.
The only way I got the previous ex to calm down in her ranting (Oh and we're talking ranting) was finally to lose my temper , telling her I`d had enough and swearing at the mentalist. I`d lasted five and a half months listening and watching her irrational behaviour. All that time being as supportive , patient and understanding as inhumanly possible.
Yeah and for what.
Where did it get me.
I was the one doing all the nurturing and she was the one unable to appreciate anything. Don't just mean my efforts. I mean anything. Anything on this earth. She`s the most negative woman I've known.
But if you checked out her Facebook page it`s all about positivity , self awareness and spreading love
Bleeding typical
That first/last Christmas together was unbelievably awful and pushed normally easy going me close to going over the edge. All unnecessary and all due to her attitude. Her "Demons" as she`d call them.
Might come back to this another day and describe just how awful that Christmas was. But for now I`ll let it lie as it`ll only get me in a shitty mood , with myself.
For putting up with her when knew it wouldn't long term work out.
Like you I`m an introvert and I think being one makes us especially stubborn in struggling on trying to make a bad situation come right. When really we`d be far better off stepping away , catching our breath and moving on to hopefully happier times.
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I’m too introvert to talk to my family or friends about this, this is why I use this forum as my therapy, so I am genuinely interested in any and all responses, whether they be long or short, serious or sarcastic.  |
It`s a tired bit of advice granted. Yet does hold true.
You need to write down the pros and cons of being in a relationship with her.
If the cons outweigh the pros and those cons are ones that negatively impact on your own quality of life. Then I`d seriously think about thoroughly reevaluating if this woman is who you want to be with her.
As sorry to say it , ss doubtful she`ll change
Mate