[73north]

I am now 51 - I got married at age 31 , and luckily I had dated a lot of women before that , and thank heavens , had saved money up for getting a house ( I also have now paid off the Mortgage last year ) -
for the first 5-8 years it was great , regular sex , and then a steady slide - now I am lucky if its once every six months - and even then she wants it over as soon as possible - result I have had a few affairs ( and seen a few escorts )
some satisfying , a few not so ..
I put up with her as she is easy-going - and lets me do what I want ( generally )
and it would cost me dear to get a divorce ( I paid all the mortgage - and she signed the papers at the time for the mortgage ) so if I broke with her it would cripple me..

I agree , you have to make the best of life ( get a dog and hobby worked for me )

six months ago - she had a rant when she found my Rachel Broome stash in my drawer in my drawing desk - and I told her straight , its my hobby , if you don't like it
there's the door - and she took the hint , I would rather get divorced than lose my hard-won collection of Vintage Erotica - that's my own personal red-line in the sand ...

that's also where I display my 2 photos of Rachel Broome ( one framed ) in my study room ( spare bedroom )
Having a Room where you can escape reality - a god-send !

for you , rosestone , if you have no financial ties and can afford it , just walk away
and get someone else , and if that fails , move on to another - try , try and try again .